Non-verbal language is one of the main areas in which attraction is expressed. Therefore, looking at the gestures that a person uses to communicate voluntarily or involuntarily with another person is useful to estimate whether there is interest or not.

In this article we’ll see a selection of the gestures that give away that a man likes you , although several of them are fulfilled in women as well.

Gestures that indicate that you attract a man

These gestures are not ordered according to a specific criterion. Read about them and determine if they fit into your social relationships and conversations with men.

1. Leans forward frequently

Keeping the body leaning forward, especially visible when the other person is sitting, is another sign of attraction.

It is a physical expression of the extent to which one is interested in the other person, since this is the position one adopts when one wants to examine something or someone carefully , even if it is in a disguised way. This is one more resource to keep distances short.

2. touches hair a lot

This is not just a sign of some tension or nervousness. In addition, in many occasions it simply obeys the will to have the hair placed in the best possible way , and to correct the small “flaws” that may appear with the passage of time and when moving, for example.

3. Looks at you from the front

It seems like a minor detail, but it’s not. It is relatively frequent that when we talk to someone we do so maintaining a position that is not directly frontal with respect to the person with whom we are interacting, but when there is attraction involved, the norm is for the torsos to be held against each other, and not just the faces.

4. The use of the controlled gaze

In normal conversations, we pay almost no attention to how we use our eyes: we simply look at the other person’s face, and that’s it.

However, one of the gestures that give away that a man likes you is that he often takes conscious control of his gaze, and makes a tour of the parts of his face with it . This is noticeable by paying attention to whether there is a progression in the positions that the pupils take, instead of staying more or less in the same place or moving but not staying for long in a different place from where they were before.

In the area of attraction and sexuality men are very visual, and therefore this gesture provides a lot of information.

5. Show your arms

Regardless of whether they are relatively muscular or not, showing your arms in a subtle way is one of the ways many men express interest caused by their attraction to someone. Arms are not only a symbol of power and strength; they also express the ability to physically protect something that has traditionally been associated with fatherhood .

6. Pupils are dilated

This is not technically a gesture, since it is an automatic reaction that cannot be controlled at will, and it is a typical phenomenon in both men and women, but it does not lose importance. When we are faced with something that attracts us, the pupils of our eyes tend to dilate, probably in order to capture in greater detail that which interests us .

7. Stays close

It may seem obvious, but we must not forget that proxemics, that is, the sphere of distance in social relations, is also part of that which expresses attraction through gestures.

The truth is that helping to make the space that separates us from others smaller and smaller does not only communicate attraction. Also, makes it more likely that true intimacy is created between two people (although sometimes it doesn’t work out and only serves to create uncomfortable moments, of course).

8. Synchronizes your non-verbal language

Another typical fact that denotes attraction through gestures has to do with subtly imitating the postures, positions and rhythms of the other person. Moreover, what is surprising about this is that in most cases it is something unconscious , which appears spontaneously and without having to do with a pre-established plan.

For example, if the other person adopts a style of communication in which there are many gestures made quickly, the other person will also do so, although perhaps in a more moderate way. The same thing will happen if the person who generates attraction rests his head on the palm of his hand, or if he relaxes in the chair, etc.

9. Shows frequent expression of surprise

Another of the gestures that express attraction typical of men has to do with facial gestures of surprise . When someone generates attraction, practically anything that makes a slight impression is experienced with more surprise than would be normal.

And it’s not something conscious or pretended; the feeling of surprise is really there; it’s part of the sense of euphoria that comes from being close to someone you like.

10. Your feet are pointing at you

The fact that the tips of the feet are oriented towards the other person is one of those basic gestures to establish whether there is attraction or not. That is, that it is not enough, but that is important to rule out cases and see where there is really little interest .

The only case in which there could be attraction while not fulfilling this rule is one in which nerves (or other circumstances unrelated to the conversation) make one want to end the dialogue as soon as possible.

Bibliographic references:

  • Kaplan, M. F.; Olczak, P. V. (1971). “Attraction toward another as a function of similarity and commonality of attitudes”. Psychological Reports. 28 (2): 515–521.
  • Klohnen, E. C.; Mendelsohn, G. A. (1998). “Partner Selection for Personality Characteristics: A Couple-Centered Approach”. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. 24 (3): 268–278.