In this century in which modern life seems to go faster and which sometimes inclines us to take certain routines, we know that it is very easy to fall into monotony, even sometimes with our own partner.
Have breakfast together at the same time, go to work at the same time, or have sex on the same days, at the same time .
Monotony in Intimate Relationships
Sexuality is a very important part of life as a couple, as relevant as the feelings that are shared or how to get along in terms of how we think or see life; so a monotonous sexual life together can lead to boredom on the part of one or both of us , a feeling of incompleteness, frustration or lead to the failure of the relationship.
That’s why today we’ll go over ten ways you can renew your sex life and your partner’s to end that monotony.
1. Try new positions in bed
This is by law the first step in getting your sex life on a more fun and enjoyable plane. You may never get bored doing the classic “missionary” thing and your partner has probably told you that there is no position that excites him/her more than “the Amazon” but why not try something different? You could find something much more pleasant. You don’t lose anything by trying, on the contrary, you could gain a lot.
What about oral sex?
We know it’s an activity surrounded by taboos, but performing good oral sex on your partner can be the spark you need to break the routine, especially if your partner doesn’t expect it.
If this proposal is not attractive enough for you, I leave you with some information that might encourage you to practice it.Research carried out by the State University of New York concluded that oral sex has a positive influence on the happiness of those who practice it. The results revealed that this is due to the fact that semen carries substances that combat depression, such as serotonin, thyrotropin and melatonin.
In addition to these substances, semen includes others such as cortisol, oxytocin and estrone, which raise general mood and are also related to improving cognitive performance.
And the men? Oakland University conducted an interesting study that concluded that those men who perform oral sex frequently on their partners become more aroused and have greater resistance during intercourse.
This is because by performing this act, men are adjusting their copulatory habits, which not only manages to excite them more, but also allows them to have better ejaculations. The study involved 233 male volunteers who answered a series of questions about their sexual habits, arousal, their sexual encounters in general and their relationship with a long-term partner.
3. Uses sex toys
You’re celebrating a special occasion and don’t know what to get your partner? Take a walk through a sex-shop, you are sure to find something you both like.
4. Do it anywhere (responsibly)
And I don’t just mean the usual “in the shower.” It’s a beautiful starry night on the roof of the house? Why not? Of course, you have to be responsible , maybe it’s fun to do it in a public place (the famous practice of “dogging”), but I’m sure your parents wouldn’t find it very pleasant to meet a couple in the middle of their act at their door.
5. Use the power of clothing
Has your partner ever told you that he’d like to see you wearing certain underwear? It’s time to indulge him, or you could also buy him something you’d like to see him wear.
Anything much bolder? He plays a role , from someone he likes on TV, to the most typical (but not ineffective) ones like dressing up as a fireman, policeman, etc. You will be surprised at how simple but powerfully effective it is to excite your partner.
6. Make a striptease
There is nothing more attractive and exciting for our eyes than seeing the person we love dancing sexy and sensually, melting us. And this applies to both, not just women.
If you’re a man, get rid of the shyness, which I’m sure your partner will love. It doesn’t matter that you are not a professional , you don’t need to sign up for those striptease or pole dance courses either, just let yourself be carried away by the passion and rhythm of a good song, just remember that the slowness of the movements is the key to bring out the most perverse side of your partner.
A tip: you can combine the previous point of characterizing a character with this one to get the most out of this practice.
7. Remember that love enters through all the senses
Starting from the fact that the main senses of the human being are five, something must be made clear; although the sexual act is a fully physical activity where the sense of touch is primordial, that in no way is a pretext for leaving others behind. Excite your partner by provoking all his senses .
You can use the fragrance she likes best, prepare some snacks to share or eat them directly from her body using it as a dish, put a sensual playlist on at the time of the event or sweeten her ear. Unfold your imagination and the next time you are going to have sex remember to be patient and turn on each of your senses first.
8. Speak up
What better way to know what your partner likes and doesn’t like in bed than by asking him/her yourself ? Ask him/her what he/she wants, what he/she likes to do and what he/she doesn’t like, or what he/she would like to try. In the same way, don’t be shy when you propose a new practice to your partner.
To make it more fun and dynamic you can try a game of “True or False” in which each one dictates a statement about some sexual activity in which the other one will have to guess whether he or she likes it or not. This little practice will not only help you to get to know each other better in the sexual field, but it will also strengthen your relationship .
9. Self exploration
Ask your partner to masturbate in front of you, with two goals. First and foremost, for you to learn. And second, for the exciting visual experience. Observe very carefully and ask him/her to tell you which parts are more sensitive for him/her.
It is also good to talk about the parts of the body that they like to be stroked, kissed and stimulated. Remember that foreplay can make the difference between a pleasant experience and one that is totally enjoyable.
10. Surprise him/her and be spontaneous
What if instead of going out where you always go at the end of the month you decide to stay home and cook him a romantic dinner at home? What if you play strip poker? What if tomorrow you say good morning to him by waking him up with a dose of sex? What if you send him a message when he’s at work telling him how much you wish he was in your bed at that moment? Innovation in sex life is key.
Innovating in bed
If you got this far, perhaps because you started to make your sex life as a couple routine to the point of falling into a risky monotony, you have reached a point where you have the need to do something different and that, of course, is excellent. But then what’s the best way to fight the monotony? Simple, is to be spontaneous .
From now on, no dates, no ways, no set times to have sex with your partner. From now on, try to do it alone and when you want and in the way you want. Spontaneity will give the spark that was needed in your sexual relations.