The other day we talked about the Cinderella complex, a social and psychological phenomenon that leads many women to try to fit into the role of a fragile, dependent woman waiting for her Prince Charming.
Part of the existence of the Cinderella complex is due to the fact that, culturally, the role of the dependent woman is still valued as something desirable and close to virtue and purity . In fact, until not so long ago it was considered that the high point in the life of every female person was to get married and to take care of a home (that is, to be tied to the domestic sphere).
That is why it is positive to highlight the qualities of female roles characterized by character, assertiveness and leadership skills that can be so revolutionary today, even if it appears to be a lie, in the world of relationships and personal relationships.
Claiming Women’s Independence
What if we add the word “independence” to a concept that has traditionally been associated with submission to man? Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, heterosexual or not, it is good to reflect on the reasons why it is worthwhile to fall in love with the figure of the independent and autonomous woman , who is not interesting to please others, but mainly to please herself.
Below we will see some of the reasons why to claim the figure of empowered women.
1. know what they want in a relationship
By knowing herself better than anyone else and having clear sentimental perspectives , the empowered woman does not mess around with the characteristics she seeks in a couple, or even with the defects and qualities in such a hypothetical relationship.
2. They set goals that attempt to define
Another reason why falling in love with the independent woman has to do with one’s own ambitions , hopes for the future and convictions in different areas of her life, which is much more attractive than being with a person with few concerns, or a conformist. There is nothing healthier than being with a person you admire and who offers the possibility of living new sensations.
3. They are driven to overcome
An independent woman will drive herself and the people who are part of her life, she will try to achieve her own goals and the happiness of the individuals around her. The reason for this is her willpower , which is necessary to consistently live a philosophy of life marked by self-sufficiency.
4. They are honest
Here we find another characteristic of a woman who is empowered, and that is that goes with the truth ahead . They will not try to soften any problem that exists with their partner if that means perpetuating a toxic relationship, but face the solution by saying exactly what they feel and think. And with that… so long drama!
5. They learn from others
Constant learning is liberating, and that is why independent women are motivated and oriented towards the acquisition of new knowledge. This not only enriches their lives, but also allows others to have someone close to them with whom they can share many interesting and stimulating topics of conversation.In fact, developing one’s own criteria is something necessary to avoid manipulation by other people.
Of course, it is not about accumulating knowledge and skills to impress a potential partner: this progress is valued as a kind of personal growth that is positive in itself. Not to please someone , but to please yourself. This aspect defines the way in which independent women relate to their self-esteem.
6. They care about others
Usually one falls or wants to fall into the error that the independent and empowered woman tends to not care about the individuals around her. However, this is not the case. The fact that they suffer the pressure of some cultural remains that continue to be anchored in machismo makes this kind of person accustomed to weaving networks of solidarity with others . They are there when they are needed and where they are needed.
7. They know how to listen and give advice
Due to their lived experiences, they will give the best advice on things in which they are experts, since they have full knowledge of the people around them, as well as of themselves thanks to the fact that they have developed a relatively high degree of self-knowledge (a consequence of having faced many challenges autonomously).
8. The perfect travel companions
Nothing is more suitable than the company of the self-sufficient woman, because she is the most suitable for those trips and adventures in which get lost in unknown areas without a predefined plan and she loves all the things that allow her to see the world from another point of view.
Many statistics and reports concerning the domestic sphere claim that it takes women an average of four years longer to become independent from their family home than men. However, becoming economically and psychologically emancipated is a step that empowered women aim for and, where appropriate, manage to achieve.
Of course, this is not achieved simply by working individually. If the independent woman turns out to be something so “exotic” it is, among other things, because behaving as autonomously as a man is still penalized in many ways. For example, at work meetings, female workers who give their opinion as often as their male colleagues of the same rank are frowned upon, according to some research.