Sandro and Sonia fell in love during their high school years. After finishing university, they both found work. At the age of 26, they had a stable life and decided to get married, so they consummated their marriage. But after more than ten years of a near-perfect relationship, their marriage went through a period of crisis, which led Sonia to be unfaithful.
When Sandro found out what had happened, he decided to separate from her. Sonia insisted and Sandro thought he could forget what had happened, so after a month living apart, he decided to give her another chance. After three months they separated for good because Sandro did not regain his confidence in Sonia .
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Loss of trust can mean the end of a relationship
Interpersonal relationships, especially love relationships, can go through rough patches, especially when one person has lost trust in the other.
In fact, in both friendship and couple relationships, the lack of trust can lead to a total break , since the degree of intimacy that existed between both actors can no longer be recovered.
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9 tips to regain the confidence of a person you care about
Sometimes, we may regret something we have done that has meant that the other person no longer trusts us . If you feel identified and want to regain the trust of that person you care so much about, follow these tips:
1. Admit your mistake
Obviously the other person has lost confidence in you because you’ve done something wrong. So don’t waste any more time trying to hide part of the story to make yourself look less bad . If you want the other person to regain confidence in you, the first thing you have to do is assume that you were wrong and that the fault is yours, at least partially.
2. Talk about what made you do it
Now that you have admitted your mistake, it’s time to talk about what led you to do it . This way the other person might even understand you. It is common for us to be defensive when we have relationship problems, and many times the solution was simply communication. Talking about your feelings and thoughts on the subject may make the other person think again, because they may also be partly to blame for what happened.
3. Be humble
Being humble is an important point in regaining someone’s trust , because if you get defensive, the conflict can become even greater. Your aim is that you can talk about what happened and that you are seen as a person who makes mistakes like any other human being. So don’t let him see you as a bad person. In fact, you may even have to bite your tongue at first to get over the initial anger.
4. Be patient
If you want to regain someone’s trust you need to let time pass and be patient . If that person who means so much to you feels betrayed by the way you have behaved, you will need time for the wounds to heal. Don’t expect everything to go back to normal overnight.
5. Make noticeable changes
If you have managed to get the other person to give you another chance, it is time to make some noticeable changes and to show them that they have not made a mistake by trusting you again . Now is the time to show, not only in words but also in deeds, how much you care about that person. In this way he will not regret having forgiven you.
6. Recover communication
In point number 2 I spoke of the need to talk about the problem. But now is the time to talk about the relationship , to recover the communication that may have been lost. Knowing both your expectations and talking openly about any subject is the best way to keep the relationship healthy. Remember that now it is easier for me to stop trusting you again.
7. Don’t lie
And the reason it’s easier for him to stop trusting you is because you’ve given him reason to doubt. Now any lie will be seen as another great betrayal. So don’t play with fire and be honest. Otherwise you will suffer the consequences of your actions.
8. Become an open book
Not lying is fine, but if you have nothing to hide, why not show yourself as an open book? Think that now it is easier for me to have thoughts and suspicions (sometimes unfounded) that you may be lying. Don’t hide conversations on your mobile phone or Facebook, let him see that you have nothing to hide.
9. Don’t make the same mistake again
If you have managed to get him to forgive and trust you again, don’t make the same mistake again . Because if it is difficult to regain trust once it is lost, if you make the same mistake again, you better forget about that person. You can follow the advice you just read to get another chance, but rarely will you get two chances for the same reason.