Obviously, acceptance and emotional fulfillment do not come out of nowhere ; they require work, effort, good intentions and the will to look at ourselves. Emotional fulfillment implies having our thoughts in order as well as our emotions.

Keys to emotional fulfillment

Here are seven factors that emotionally fulfilled people have in common:

1. know how to say goodbye

People are often afraid of change , of starting a new phase. It is natural for us to have a sense of insecurity and fear and even pain in the face of loss, but being prepared to go through all the stages and from this attitude, will make it easier to reach the goal of acceptance.

The first step is to want change, and the second is to be willing to take the first step. Changes are necessary, and it all starts by looking at our thoughts and emotions to select those that we are interested in claiming.

The mind map has many dimensions, and we usually choose only one. But if we keep our mind open, it will allow us to have access to a wide range of possibilities. From there we will be able to choose and nurture the one that benefits us most and allows us to evolve.

Always thinking about the past instead of the present hurts us. It prevents us from freeing ourselves, detaching ourselves and growing. And submerges us in fear , in an abyss from which I feel uneasy and which will not allow us to improve.

Emotionally fulfilled people know that life is much better if it is lived freely, repairing our emotional wounds and moving forward from the present.

2. They can look back on their emotional past without suffering.

Pain is inevitable and necessary to evolve in our emotional journey but suffering is a choice. Martin Luther once said: “I cannot stop the birds from flying over my head, but I can stop them from making a nest in my head”.

Emotionally fulfilled people know how important it is to live in the present, to move on and accept what has happened. When we learn from our pain, we move forward and grow.

3. are aware of their thoughts and feelings

Emotionally fulfilled people are aware of both personal and external thoughts and feelings , they focus from the present on realistic solutions, from care, respect, love and inner peace.

This mentality allows them to solve the problems of everyday life effectively. They are more resilient , they know that they can and will fall, but they are aware that they will get up and become even stronger and more resolute since the learning process. They know that they will come out of the storm, but changed. They determine that constructive, non-destructive changes will continue to be part of them.

4. Stop complaining

They shift that energy from complaining to finding the best way to start the change or acceptance.

The complaint can throw us into dark rooms with no way out. We are largely what we think , and emotionally fulfilled people take this into account. They know that if they take one path and it doesn’t give the expected results it may not be the right one at that moment, so they will make the decision to get out of that comfort zone and, from humility, rectify and take that other path which will give different and probably more satisfactory results.

5. They can empathize without allowing themselves to be affected by the emotions of others

They have the confidence to know how to direct their emotions. They are faithful to their actions and this allows them to maintain a more active understanding of their own and other people’s emotions. From self-knowledge and acceptance they are more tolerant and will optimize the relationship with themselves as well as with others.

Relationships are the key to emotional balance , the quality of your relationships is what makes life possible, starting with yourself.

6. Not to blame for failure

Mistakes are the best way to learn . Failing allows us to be tolerant and to know how to correct or recognize what other path we need to take. Mature people accept mistakes, it is a way of innovating.

Moreover, emotionally fulfilled people do not blame themselves for their limits , but rather accept them and work to improve. They do not insist that things always go well, every setback can be a good opportunity to grow. Acknowledging the negative emotions we feel is a restorative break for the mind.

7. Emotional openness

Maintaining the emotional barrier only makes things more difficult. For this reason, it is very important to abandon the fear of commitment and through love and self-confidence we will identify and manage difficulties better and experience great results more fully.

Conclusion

Fear is natural , it is a mechanism that the brain has to face threatening situations, but the important thing is not to let it paralyze us. It is like the decision to parachute; the first step is crucial, and once you are already on the plane about to make the jump, the first time you almost always implore the instructor that it is better to throw in the towel, but the instructor usually does not “listen” and gives that push to jump.

Emotional fullness allows one to take charge of life from the most constructive decisions , to develop one’s own vision of the world and to strive for the most satisfactory goals.

The key is to be open to solutions and not to closed expectations. Life is very paradoxical and after the storm the sun always appears, you just have to be open to this new light that is coming, maybe being different from the expectations. And remember, you are the creator of your mind!