The concept of infidelity is for most couples a cause for concern and fear, to the point that it can lead to jealousy (justified or not) and even serious conflicts between couples. It is an act that, unless it has been agreed beforehand (for example, by having an open relationship), is generally lived as a betrayal of the relationship, finding your partner in bed being the nightmare of many.

However, some people may find it erotic for their partner to have relationships with other people, to the point where a tendency to do so has emerged: the so-called cuckolding or cuckqueaning .

Cuckolding: concept of this sexual modality

The concept of cuckolding, whose approximate translation would be something like “cheating” or “being unfaithful” , also refers today to a tendency or sexual practice based on obtaining sexual gratification through the observation or the story of your partner having relations with a third person.

Technically cuckolding would refer to the practice in which a man gets sexual satisfaction from watching his partner having sex with another man, while cuckqueaning would be the case of those women who get aroused by watching their partner with another woman. Generally, however, cuckolding (i.e., the observer is male) is more common.

In couples where this practice takes place, the non-sexual partner finds it gratifying and exciting that his partner has sex with another person and he can see it , or that his partner tells him about the encounter. This can arouse passion later on between the two partners and serve as a stimulus for the joint sex life. It is also possible that masturbatory behavior may occur during the observation/storytelling.

Many couples consider this practice to be satisfactory, emotion-generating and empowering for their joint sexual life. However, it is necessary that this is something agreed upon and to which both parties have free access, without pressure of any kind and without forcing themselves to do so in order to please the other party .

Although rare, cuckolding is a normative sexual activity and can be an experience for those who really want to practice it. However, when it is the only or virtually the only cause of sexual arousal for the observer and causes discomfort or interference with normal functioning, it can constitute a paraphilia, called troilism.

Booming practice, previously rejected

In recent times cuckolding/cuckqueaning has been spreading among the population, becoming a trend and making its way through the usual sexual fantasies .

However, it is far from being a majority practice. It is not a practice for everyone: it assumes that the couple will be having sex with someone else and this is unpleasant for many people.

In fact, until relatively recently, this practice was socially rejected by the majority of society. Cuckolding is a practice that has been badly considered, as well as many other sexual tendencies .

For example, it has some relation to the idea of partner-swapping, being a similar concept. In this case the couple agrees in advance on the situation, being something accepted by both parties. It also has a relationship with voyeurism and exhibitionism, because part of the erotic component is looking at/receiving a description of what happened or being looked at/counting the relationship.

Possible causes of the appearance of excitation

The concept of infidelity is for most couples a cause for concern and fear, to the point that it can lead to jealousy (justified or not) and even serious conflicts between couples. It is an act that, unless it has been agreed beforehand (for example, by having an open relationship), is generally lived as a betrayal of the relationship, finding your partner in bed being the nightmare of many.

However, some people may find it erotic for their partner to have relationships with other people, to the point where a tendency to do so has emerged: the so-called cuckolding or cuckqueaning .

Cuckolding: concept of this sexual modality

The concept of cuckolding, whose approximate translation would be something like “cheating” or “being unfaithful” , also refers today to a tendency or sexual practice based on obtaining sexual gratification through the observation or the story of your partner having relations with a third person.