Thanks to new communication technologies, we now have alternative methods of asking a man out, if you are shy and find it hard to tell a guy that you would like to go out with him, a simple way to do it is through a message .
How do you ask that guy you like for a date?
You only have to know a series of very easy steps, to do it correctly. Throughout this article, we will break down the proper way to engage in a fruitful conversation.
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Below we show you these steps and how to execute them .
Step 1: Think of the right scenario
When you are completely determined to propose a message date to a man you are attracted to, the first thing you should do is think about this first date, that is, which would be the best option for you to feel safe while thinking that this idea could be interesting for the person you like.
The ambiguity in the message you want to convey is not advisable , you must calmly weigh what you want to say and how you are going to say it and above all be concise. Suggest a place, a day and a time, never use general formulas such as: “let’s see if we meet again sometime”… so that when you make your proposal, you have a firm base to hold on to. Otherwise, your invitation may not be clear or may produce uncertainty due to your nerves and this may result in your appointment never being formalised.
That is, if you don’t have a clear idea about what the quote should look like, you may not get any results .
If you know something that especially interests or pleases him, think about something related to it, for example, if you know that a certain music group is to his liking, propose to go to a concert of this group , in this way you will specify a place and date at the same time that you carry out an activity that coincides with his tastes, that will make him feel comfortable and have fun with you.
However, if you don’t know this person very well, even if he or she attracts your attention, try a standard formula, for example, meet for a coffee in an elegant establishment, this way you can start a conversation with him or her, get to know each other better, without the appointment taking too long in case there is not much feeling .
Step 2: Establish a pleasant conversation
Try to establish a conversation before trying to invite someone , this way you will smooth the way, especially if you only know each other by sight or you study/work together but in different sectors so that you only cross hello and goodbye.
Start naturally and spontaneously, without any apparent intention , don’t just jump on him because this might scare him off, for example, after greeting him, ask him how his life is going, what he’s done with the weekend… this way you will subtly show that you feel interest in him.
Also, by applying this simple step, you can probe the person and find out if they are interested in you . If he or she answers your questions and is also interested in you in the same way, this may mean that he or she is probably interested in you as well.
If you are not absolutely sure that this person has your mobile number, then introduce yourself first in your message.
If you have known him for a short time or if he was introduced to you recently, for example at a meeting of friends or a celebration , you should ideally remind him of his name and the place and circumstances in which you met or who introduced you.
Step 3: Take action and propose a meeting
If you have already gone through these steps and started a conversation with this person, and you have sent him/her a message, do not hesitate to invite him/her . Let them know that you would like to get to know them more deeply and if it turns out that this person feels the same way about you, then make your invitation for a certain day and place.
If he rejects your plan but happens to propose to see you on another specific occasion, this is a good way to find out if this person is really interested in you. If the day you have proposed to him is not suitable for him (for whatever reason, he may have an appointment with the dentist…), however he proposes you any other day, then you will know for sure that this person is interested in you .
If, on the other hand, she tells you she can’t do it on that day but doesn’t offer you an alternative to meet her at another time, then it’s better not to insist because she’s probably not interested in you.
Step no. 4: Take care of the little details
When the person you are interested in has accepted your appointment, make sure that you have all the right connections , you must be clear about the place and time of the meeting so that there is no margin for error. Then, once you have all this ready, let him/her know clearly that you are looking forward to meeting him/her and then say goodbye with a “see you” or something similar.
Anyway, you have to take into account that on the first date there are always more nerves , so you must find a way to mitigate them, think that following these steps you have a 90% chance of success.
Step 5: If something goes wrong, look to the future
Finally, if that person revokes your invitation, don’t lose your temper, let him know that you just wanted to get to know him a little better and then say goodbye politely . And above all don’t despair, you will find many more opportunities.