The seductive personality is of great value in a society where contacts and social relationships are increasingly important. This is something that can be seen quickly if we look at the advantages that people with the ability to please others easily have: a greater public profile, which means more opportunities of all kinds.
Next we will see what are the basic characteristics of the seductive personality and what are the socialization strategies related to it.
Seductive personality: its features and strategies
It should be noted that a personality trait is not something “fixed” that belongs to an individual.
In any case, it is a property that is expressed through the patterns of behavior during the day to day. Just as being a sports fan is not something that appears on a card, the seductive personality exists in the way in which certain people are accustomed to relate to others .
Having said that, let’s move on to see what the typical characteristics of the seductive personality are.
1. Good control of non-verbal language
Seductive people express themselves in much more than words: they use all their resources to communicate with others the way they want to. This includes, of course, non-verbal communication.
But this type of personality is not only characterized by using a range of varied and nuanced forms of non-verbal expression . Moreover, these gestures, postures and ways of intoning the voice are simple learnings, which do not involve much effort and are used spontaneously when relating to others.
For example, even in an improvised situation, such as meeting someone you know on the street, the man or woman with this type of personality will know how to move his or her arms and hands in a way that is consistent with what he or she is saying, instead of leaving his or her arms immobile or keeping them in his or her pockets all the time as if that were an imposition.
2. Tendency to extraversion
Seductive people tend to be extraverted, which means that they enjoy the socially complex contexts in which they must participate, and they feel comfortable in that environment to the point where they seek to live those kinds of experiences with some frequency.
The reason is that they do not feel anxiety when talking to strangers or relatively unknown people, nor when speaking in public, since they know that they give a good image, and on the other hand these situations are exciting enough to be fun or interesting.
At the same time, this translates into a popular strategy to gain power of seduction in front of others: to publicly display this extraversion . For example, going up to a high place at a party to give a short speech that everyone can hear (without anyone asking or the context requiring it). This causes admiration, as it is seen as a desirable trait.
3. Control of times at presentation
The seductive personality is clearly expressed in one of the most important moments of social interaction: the presentation. During this stage, which usually lasts a few seconds, this type of person knows how to express his or her importance by controlling the timing. Instead of introducing themselves and quickly moving on to something else , they make this phase slower than usual: they make the presentation have its mini-ceremony. For example, in an informal context they shake hands with a joke that allows them to extend this moment by a few more seconds.
Having to wait longer makes the other person internalize the message that his or her interlocutor is important enough to deserve that privilege, even if this is not true.
4. The absence of hesitation
One of the most seductive traits is self-confidence. That is why one of the strategies that seductive people use the most is not to show doubts, sometimes even at times when it would be reasonable to have them. Somehow, they mask that decision making in a way that seems to make it clear from the first moment what to do.
5. Physical proximity
Another characteristic of the seductive personality is that it plays with proxemics, that is, the spaces that people maintain between themselves.
To show self-confidence, these people may come a little closer than usual to others , without making it very uncomfortable, but in a way that makes it clear that they have the power of the conversation (not in a hostile sense; in fact, it’s a “soft” dominance in which the other person may feel comfortable not having to decide much about what course the conversation should take).
6. The search for consensus
The seductive personality is not based on superiority over the other at any price, as this would lead to intimidation. In any case, seeks to be the engine of consensus that may occur in a dialogue or social interaction. That is why a conciliatory spirit is shown, trying to emphasize what one has in common with the people to whom the seduction is directed, and without stressing the differences.