The mathematics of sexual pleasure in men and women
he following is the graphical representation of the female and male sexual arousal curves . The curve on the left corresponds to that of men and the one on the right is shown for women.
The simplicity and speed of the male curve with respect to the female curve is easily observed, as was to be expected. We also see that at the end of the female curve there are four different options, this represents four types of orgasmic response in women.
These curves represent the levels of arousal during a sexual relationship. It should be clarified that these representations reflect general values in the population and that each person is different and has his or her own particular sexual response. But let’s go to the detail of the graph.
Firstly, there are actually five overlapping corners here. Firstly, the male curve on the left of the graph, followed by the female sexual response which has a common part, the phases of intimacy, excitement and tension , and according to the sexologist Marina Castro, it leads to four possible responses: Explosive orgasm (E), Multigasmic (M), Sustained orgasm (S) and No orgasm (SO).
Male arousal curve: brief and predictable
The male curve represents the level of arousal in a context of sexual activity with genital contact . This means that if the man is aroused and genitally manipulated either by another person in a partner relationship or by himself in a situation of masturbation, his arousal response is very rapid as shown by the upward slope culminating in orgasm, the peak of the graph, to descend in free fall to the basal level or zero arousal.Therefore, orgasm is an end point of arousal and often of sexual intercourse.
Here we have an important problem and source of conflict in the couple : if the man focuses on his excitement and search for orgasm, the party will be over for him when the woman has not even begun to hear the music of a party that will have little festivity and that will end without having enjoyed a sad canapÃ©. In a few seconds we will have a man snoring with a puerile smile and a woman on the warpath wanting to strangle that smile. Later on we will see what can be done about it.
Female arousal curve: complex and intense
The female curve is much longer in time , it can develop in different ways and has several possible endings, it can even be coupled to another excitation cycle without having finished the first one. We can see that the complexity in the excitement of women is much greater and so is the capacity to obtain pleasure and enjoy sex, it being indisputable that it is women who dominate over men in terms of sexual pleasure and richness of orgasms.
Looking at the curve we see that the initial excitation slope is much smoother, it needs much more time to approach the high levels of excitation. We can also observe that the orgasm is different from the male one and sometimes or some women do not reach it and we also see that the resolution phase is in almost all cases very different from the male one, with a gentle fall or a cyclical recovery towards another orgasm or others.
How do we measure pleasure mathematically?
This is where the math comes in. If the curves in the graph represent five possible subjects, one man and four women, who experiences more pleasure? Some might say those with the highest points, namely the man and the woman with the explosive orgasm. In these two cases, we find the maximum levels of arousal, but not of pleasure .
Sexual pleasure is the level of arousal for as long as we maintain this level and this is mathematically defined by the area of the region under the graph of each curve. But before we continue, let’s give some notions of analytical calculus, one of my favorite areas of mathematics, and specifically about integrals.
Theorem:
Let’s see your graphic representation:
The symbol that looks like an elongated S is the symbol of the integral. f(x) is the mathematical function with which the curve of the graph is represented, a and b are the initial and final points between which the integral is bound, and d(x) is a mathematical term that refers to the independent variable and that you can be thankful that it does not explain because it exceeds the object of this article, and I assure you that it is far from any relationship with any orgasm. But here we go. Can we do a mathematical analysis of sexual pleasure and orgasm?
If we analyze the sexual excitement curve shown at the beginning, we see that sexual pleasure is the integral of the function of the curve between points a and b, where a = 0, the starting point in time, and b is the final point to integrate, where excitement returns to the initial level and the curve decays to the lower or abscissa axis.
What sex does she dominate in bed?
If we measure mathematically the sexual pleasure of men and women, there is no doubt that women are the strong sex.
If we call fh the function that represents the graph of sexual excitement of the man and fm that of the woman, we have to:
This means that according to our graph, the pleasure obtained by any of the women represented, whatever their orgasmic resolution, is superior to the short pleasure obtained by men.
All this suggests several things:
- The male priority in the relationship should be the search for pleasure and not the orgasm since this is a brief moment of high excitement that follows with a sudden fall that ends the relationship and the pleasure itself.
- Maximum sexual pleasure in the couple is achieved by equalizing the male and female curves , this is mainly a man’s job to focus on his partner’s arousal and to forget or rather run away from his own orgasm.
Furthermore, let us bear in mind that only 25 percent of women experience orgasm safely during intercourse, and knowing the dire orgasmic consequences of intercourse, we must think of something else.
Male and female sexual response coupling
After investigating the different sexual responses of men and women we can understand many of the problems we may encounter personally as well as the view people may have about sex according to their particular experience. We can even understand collective, or conceptions about sexuality throughout history and different cultures.
But how can we make a sexual relationship as pleasant as possible for both women and men? The first thing to work on is the inclination of the male curve to approach the female one, for this the man must avoid focusing on his excitement and genitals to concentrate on the excitement of his partner. At this point it is convenient that the man finds the secret of his wife’s excitement and it is very easy: ask her what she likes!
It is very likely that she gets excited with words, with stories or fantasies, with caresses, kisses to the extent and intensity that she tells you. That curve of excitement so soft will increase, and from here the man should avoid the orgasm itself. Remember that the male orgasm is the abrupt end of the man’s excitement and usually marks the end of the sexual relationship, so an important recommendation for mutual sexual enjoyment is this: the man’s orgasm should come after the woman’s
Simultaneous orgasm as a goal is one of the great myths of sexuality, it can be achieved after much experience and complicity in the relationship, but this should not be the goal.
As we have already indicated, the longer the levels of intimacy, excitement and especially sexual tension are maintained, the greater the graphs in time and the greater the integral. If we represent this mathematically, we see that the maximum sexual pleasure (Pmax) is equal to the sum of the maximum pleasure of the man and the woman, that is, the pleasure obtained during the maximum time (tmax), where the pleasure of both is almost identical and here we have the much desired formula of maximum sexual pleasure:
I hope this mathematical approach to sex was suggestive, pleasurable and perhaps exciting.