Self-esteem is a sum of perceptions, evaluations, emotions and behaviors oriented towards oneself, towards how we are and what we do, and towards physical characteristics and our way of being. In short, it is the perception we have of ourselves.

On the other hand, self-esteem is very important in your life because it affects your character and the sense you give to your personal worth . In this way, it affects the way you are, the way you act in the world and the way you live with others. Your way of thinking, of expressing and feeling your emotions, of deciding and behaving is directly influenced by the self-esteem you have.

In this article we will see what is the mirror technique used to achieve adequate self-esteem .

This is how we are influenced by having good self-esteem

Your self-esteem is very much related to the way you feel that you are valued, loved and appreciated by others, and also to how you value, accept and love yourself.

When you achieve a healthy self-esteem you feel good about who you are, you appreciate your own worth and take pride in your skills and goals achieved .

On the contrary, when your self-esteem is low, you feel that no one will like you, that no one will accept you, or you consider that you are not good at anything.

Anyone can have problems with self-esteem throughout life. In fact, when our self-esteem is especially vulnerable is during adolescence , since that is when we are discovering who we are and what our place is in the world. In adulthood we are also exposed to suffer from self-esteem problems, when we go through critical periods in our lives (separation from a partner, loss of work…).

But there is one piece of good news. As the idea we have of ourselves changes over time, self-esteem is not fixed for life . So, if you feel that your self-esteem is low, you can increase it.

The mirror technique

With the mirror technique you can improve your self-esteem, since is based on the personal observation of each person in front of the mirror , as well as on the observation of the environment in which we develop.

With the help of a mirror we can improve our self-esteem and, by means of several questions, you will be able to guide yourself by observing yourself, and by doing your own introspection and expressing what you see in the mirror when you look at yourself.

You will be able to do this dynamic with your children, whether they are children or teenagers , since the first years of life are a key stage in improving their concept of themselves.

However, before you start I recommend that you gather some background information; to do so you will have to answer these questions that will clarify your opinion about yourself.

  • When you look in the mirror do you look handsome?
  • Do you think you have good things to contribute to others? What?
  • Do you think your friends, family and co-workers like you just the way you are?
  • What would you change about your appearance?
  • When you feel and look good, do you feel more confident?

Once you’ve answered these questions, it’s time to look in the mirror.

How to implement it?

Stand in front of the mirror and see yourself answering these questions:

  • What do you see in the mirror?
  • What does the person who looks at you from the mirror look like?
  • Do you know him?
  • What good things does that person have?
  • What are the bad things about someone who looks at you from the mirror?
  • What do you like best about that person?
  • Would you change anything about the person in the mirror?

You must make the effort to see all the positive characteristics that the person you see in the mirror has (you) , which I’m sure there are many, and thus you will learn to recognize them.

You may be impressed by the way you say positive personal characteristics that you perceive about yourself, and that you often do not recognize or value.

It would also be good to support you also in the information given by friends or family : to know if you agree with what they think of you, what things they see in you that you don’t take into account.
With this technique you will be able to know what your image of yourself is, how you perceive yourself, what impression you think you give, and work on the most relevant aspects and enhance what you see as most positive.