What is coaching and what is it for?
I’ll make you a proposal: in this article you will not only find out what coaching is once and for all , but at the end I will ask you some questions that will help you start to see the solution to the problems you are living and feeling right now.
Because to know what coaching is you must also experience it. Coaching is not about giving talks, motivating or doing workshops, but much more than that . It is a tool with which it is possible to achieve the change you need to solve your personal or professional problems (in relation to your self-knowledge, self-esteem, fears, confidence in yourself, personal relationships, etc.)
If coaching works, it is because you learn from yourself and when you change and develop, everything that happens to you changes.
What is coaching?
More than 10 years ago coaching came into our lives as a powerful personal development tool to achieve change and new goals in your life. Little by little, it became so popular that poor quality training was offered and inexperienced coaches came out of nowhere.
So let’s start at the end: a coach is not a motivator, nor someone who gives talks or advice on how to change your life in workshops or seminars. You, only you, are the person who is going to change and transform your life and a coach is only a very prepared expert in accompanying you on that path (deep training and many years of experience).
I can tell you this from my own experience. Seven years ago I was a coach and psychologist who accompanied people to achieve a great change and transformation in their lives. But what about me? In order to be a good coach, I had to set an example. That’s why I decided to live my own personal development process and travel to other countries, to learn more about myself.
I dared to do something different, to grow up and better myself. I have lived in 3 countries and accompanied people from up to 6 different countries. What I have learned from this experience is that people can change what happens to them if they commit themselves to a process of personal change . And that’s what a coach is for: to accompany you to achieve this in an expert and professional way.
For this reason I created Empoderamiento humano, a school of personal development online where I have brought together all this knowledge and I accompany you in processes of change so that you can develop the part of you that you need most (your self-esteem, emotion management, self-knowledge, professional development) and build a new life.
To access Human Empowerment, you can see the contact details here.
A Way to Empower Yourself
To tell you what coaching is you first have to forget all the definitions I have read before on pages like Wikipedia or similar. Most of them are wrong.
The word coaching here does not come from the English verb “to train”, but from the Hungarian term “kocz”, which means carriage or horse-drawn carriage, as it is often said that a coaching process is like a journey from where you are now (how you feel, how you relate, how you act and what you achieve) to a place where you feel better, achieve new results and experiences .
I’ll give you my personal definition: “Coaching is a tool for human empowerment and personal development through which a person, in the company of a professional coach, lives a process of change and personal transformation that makes him live new experiences, achieve new goals, achieve more clarity and self-confidence and leave behind situations in his life that were annoying.
Sounds good, doesn’t it? But I’ll tell you more. I’m going to tell you where coaching really comes from, what you can get, why it works so well and how you can start your experience to grow and improve yourself .
Coaching is based on the human being
Coaching is not a fad, since it comes from Socratic dialogue, which consists of accompanying a person in his process of change by means of a deep understanding of his way of seeing life and by asking him questions that help him find a new vision and achieve the changes he needs.
This way of working is what we psychologists know works. Lectures, advice, tips or impact techniques are only distractions that will not really change what happens to you, except for yourself if you start a process of change and transformation.
The 5 factors
Do you want to know what the basics are that make coaching work? There are five factors that make coaching work, and are the keys to all change processes and personal development (also in a psychological therapy). They are as follows.
1. Responsibility
In a coaching process, it is you who takes the responsibility to change what is happening to you by your own change. Nobody is going to give you advice or guide you, because then you would be depending on the coach. Here, it is you who takes action and grows and the coach accompanies you to achieve this. It’s realistic, practical, ethical and safe.
2. Opening
In a coaching process you discover that your problems are due to not finding solutions because your vision of what is happening is limited.
With coaching you learn to have more openness, to have broader views , and that gives you greater creativity to understand the other, find solutions and new attitudes, actions and thoughts.
3. Development
With coaching you will experience changes in you and that will mean greater personal development. Life is change, but only when you do something different that leads to that change .
4. Commitment
This is probably the most important factor. In a coaching process there is a commitment between you and the coach, so that you take action and start to discover yourself, to know yourself more and to change your situation. Knowing that “there is someone there” with you is what changes everything.
5. You learn and unlearn
In a coaching process you learn to leave behind behaviours and attitudes that were freezing you in trouble , as if you lived in a circle where experiences were repeated over and over again. With the company of a coach, you leave that circle forever.
Questions to be answered
Now, I’m going to ask you those questions that can help you live your change process. Answer them honestly and if possible on paper. Here we go!
What would you like to achieve in your life (in relation to you) that you have not yet achieved?
What do you think is the part of you that, if changed and transformed, would help you get what you want and resist (your self-esteem, your self-knowledge, how you understand and manage your emotions, your fear, your anger or guilt, your personal relationships, your motivation, how you communicate, etc.)
Do you know what makes you motivated and want to grow and improve as a person? Do these reasons depend on you or are they related to external factors ?
Would you like to transform your life into an extraordinary experience?
Your answers should help you take the first step. Know what you want to achieve, what needs to change about you , and what you can do to start achieving it.
If you want help and that company, I invite you to enter Empoderamiento humano.com, the school of personal development that I have created and in which I offer you all the knowledge and experiences that I have accumulated in these 10 years of processes and trips.
At school you will find free processes to learn to understand your emotions, improve your self-esteem, increase your self-knowledge and give your life a purpose or improve personal skills that make you a better professional.
You also find specific trainings to achieve changes in your life with my company as a coach, which you can do from home and with freedom of schedule.
Your big change begins when you commit yourself to being that change. This is how your life and what happens to you will change forever and make a different contribution to the world. And that, above all, is the meaning of empowerment.