You may have heard the term “tantric sex” . If you are not very knowledgeable about the subject, you might think it is something similar to “Kamasutra”. Actually, Kamasutra and tantric sex have nothing to do with each other.

While the first is a book in which a series of sexual positions appear, Tantric sex refers to the practice of Tantra, which is an Indian philosophy that increases sexual experience.

Tantric sex: what is it?

So, in reality, tantric sex as such does not exist, but Tantra does. And although in the West it is associated with sexual practice, Tantra is a holistic experience with Buddhist origin. This practice helps people to be aware of their surroundings and what is going on in their own inner energy.

It is based on existentiality and on the “here and now”, that is, in the present moment. This attitude towards life indirectly affects sexuality, since a non-judgmental mentality is adopted, in which the person connects with his or her being and that of his or her partner.

Tantra allows us to live with greater freedom and helps us to develop the senses and the way to love others . Likewise, thanks to being in the present moment, it is synonymous with emotional connection, it is fusion with oneself and with our beloved. Tantra intensifies the sexual experience because it puts all the attention on sexual practice. The mind and the body merge and intensify the sensations and the experience.

7 tantric sex exercises

Therefore, in order to practice tantric sex, it is necessary to practice Tantra. And… how is it possible to do that?

Below we help you experiment with this practice and present a series of exercises that can help you improve the sexual experience and therefore the pleasure derived from this act.

1. The sacred present

The present is undoubtedly the best way to connect with oneself. Putting the focus on the here and now means that our mind is not ruminating, so we can give ourselves away more deeply. In fact, if we focus on the past or on expectations, it is very difficult to achieve not only orgasm, but also erection. For Tantra, the only time that exists is the present .

The present is considered a sacred moment. In order to be able to set aside ideas, thoughts, memories and imaginations, it is necessary to open up to the person’s experience and become aware of the place, the situation, the couple’s skin, their hair, their smell… To open the door to the flow of sensations and energy between the two, it is necessary to focus attention on the here and now. This is possible by practicing Tantric breathing.

How to do it? Just before the sexual encounter, it is necessary to stand in front of the couple, naked, in front of each other. Tantric breathing is used to quiet one’s own and control inspiration and expiration, so that the attention is focused on the entrance and exit of air through the nose. The eyes must be closed and this must be done for five minutes. When you have controlled your breathing, it is time to connect with the other’s breath and merge the two breaths. Then, our partner begins to be someone with whom we connect and enjoy the experience as one entity. .

2. Eye contact

There are many people who are afraid to look other people directly in the eye, but the look says more than a thousand words . Naked in front of each other, it is possible to increase the connection simply by maintaining sexual contact.

To make the connection, you just need to sit naked in front of your partner and figure out what he feels and what you feel. It’s about being aware of what’s going on in that special moment. Although it may be uncomfortable at first, in the end you will end up stripping away your feelings. The rest will happen on its own.

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3. Control of the chakras (energy centers)

Tantra puts the focus on the chakras, which are the energy centers of the body . This practice favors the energetic exchange between the members of the intimate relationships, which from this philosophy is understood to be six. Three of the man (instinctive-sexual, emotional and mental-spiritual) and three of the woman.

These also contain several centres. For example, the instinctive-sexual is formed by: the root (1st) and the sexual (2nd); and the emotional by the solar plexus chakra (3rd), the heart chakra (4th) and the larynx chakra (5th), among others. Each of these points has an impact on the sexual act.

In order to work the chakras, one must be placed face down and the couple, then, can perform a massage throughout the body, from the feet to the first chakra, through the 7 main ones. Then, the member of the couple that was face down turns around and the other performs a massage from the crown to the feet. Once the entire body of one partner has been massaged, the two change roles. Once they have experienced this massage, they are ready for the sexual encounter.

4. Exploring the valley

Tantra is also known as the cult of the feminine . The feminine refers to the archetypal characteristics regarding the life experience of women, in the sense of tenderness, listening, softness and sensitivity, etc. Likewise, the woman is the creative figure of life, not only because she has children, but also because of the special care she requires in terms of cycles and time in sexual practice.

The Tantric man has the predisposition to accompany and lend his essence to enjoy it. This special attention on the woman’s pleasure, in turn, will have repercussions on his own. To work it, the man must show an attitude of full attention and receptive attention to the body of his partner: listening to it, perceiving it, feeling it with subtlety and in its totality. The increased excitement of the woman will also provide immense pleasure to the man.

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5. Discovering the new universe

This point may seem similar to the previous one, but while the previous one pays attention to the signals that man receives from his partner, or what in Tantra is known as Shakti, the goddess. This knowledge awakens the consciousness of the male (also called Shiva). But the human body is a universe to be discovered, and there are different erogenous zones that we can go waking up and discovering .

To do this, the members of the couple must take a blank sheet of paper and draw, each one, the body of the other both in front and behind. Each one colours the parts of their partner’s body that they consider to be erogenous zones in a different colour. Then they carry out the comparison of their ideas. At the next sexual encounter, they make their discoveries.

6. The different rhythms

Human beings have a great capacity to adapt and habituation is something innate in human beings. This makes it necessary to change the rhythms in the intimate encounter with the couple. Everything in nature changes, and the same should happen in sex. It is possible to use variety without changing partners . The change of intensities and rhythms increases the energy of arousal and helps to have more intense orgasms.

One tantric exercise that can be practiced is the following. When the members of the couple are in an intimate encounter, they should vary the rhythm and intensity of the caresses, especially in the erogenous zones. This should not only be done in the preliminaries, but also during intercourse. For example, it is possible to perform 6 soft penetrations and one deep one. A combination of 5-1, 4-1, 3-1, 2-1, 1-1 (where the first number is soft penetrations and the second is deep penetrations) can also be performed and then the sequence can be restarted.

7. Mastering the orgasm valley

There are many people who are interested in Tantra to acquire mastery over the ejaculatory process , because when ejaculation occurs, man loses physical energy and requires a time for recovery.

Ejaculation is the result of what is understood as a peak orgasm, that of short duration and which ends in an explosion of energy. But the mastery of ejaculation leads us to the valley orgasm, which consists of the whole body orgasm, which does not advance the end of intercourse because the erection does not give way and the clitoris can continue to be stimulated without discomfort.

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The orgasm valley is key to the greatest enjoyment of the relationship. A tantric technique to improve the awareness of the ejaculatory moment is the practice of the perception of the previous instant, that is to say, to stop just at the moment when the person is going to ejaculate. After a few seconds, it is possible to return to action. To promote the state of self-awareness, it is necessary to practice active listening to oneself and to detect the pleasant sensations that lead to the peak orgasm. First of all, the work is done alone. When there is a certain mastery, then one works with the partner.