Love is one of the most intense feelings that we can experience, and perhaps that is why, before it, our rationality lowers its defenses.

This is good in many ways, since thinking too rigidly can make the labels with which we classify reality prevent us from fully enjoying the experience that a loving relationship provides.

However, this fact is a double-edged sword. Just as we abandon ourselves to the feeling of love, we also forget our capacity to live the experiences with simplicity. The waves of emotions that shake our brains often lead us to live in a fiction full of epic and idealization that does not correspond to reality.

Truths about love to live relationships with simplicity

This is a selection of some reflections and life philosophy guidelines that can help to live love relationships with simplicity and without unnecessary drama.

There are some truths about love whose power is simply to be based on simplicity.

1. Telepathy does not exist, even in love

There is a certain idealization of relationships that can lead us to think that the definitive lovers understand each other perfectly without the need to speak . This may be true in some cases, but in almost all cases, it is not so much the result of perfect chemistry between the two people, but of coexistence and the passage of time.

Sometimes certain coincidences can lead one to think that something similar to telepathy exists between the members of a couple, but this has to do with the biased view one has of the other. In our daily life, it often happens that a person reacts by anticipating our desires, but we do not give them any importance because, as a matter of statistics, we consider that it is normal for this to happen from time to time. When it is the couple who do it, instead, we look for explanations that serve to reinforce our certainty that the foundations of this emotional bond are solid.

2. Asking “what’s wrong with you” is not a crime

This is a derivation of the above. The problem with believing that love is about understanding each other without talking is that this is almost never interpreted as a simple description of what a relationship is, but is used as an explanation of what it should be.

This can lead to penalizing the other person when they ask questions and are interested in our status or, as if it were wrong to do that. Maintaining this attitude is not compatible with believing that there should be communication in a couple. Through the use of communication, the degree of understanding and empathy increases, reaching a point where, this time, there are occasions when words are not necessary.

3. Dependency is not an option

Creating asymmetries in a relationship almost always ends up having a negative impact. Assuming that one partner must make many more sacrifices than the other generates discomfort, frustration and resentment if this does not lead to a “special reward”.

Lovers need to be equally free and autonomous within a relationship.

4. Making mistakes together is good

Making decisions that time reveals to be wrong is not necessarily wrong, if the decision has been made between the two. Making a fair mistake is also a way of making the relationship evolve , taking root in our memory and in the way we start to interpret our lives. At the same time, if we are never wrong, it is likely that we have reached a stage of stagnation.

5. A relationship is also a project

That means that does not consist of simply being together . If we don’t make the relationship evolve, it won’t evolve on its own. It is necessary to be involved and to strive to create a framework in which lovers feel safe and have room to express themselves freely.

6. You have to undertake adventures

In love, it is very positive to do your best to change your mind . Travelling together, starting common projects, introducing new habits… are ways of getting to know facets of the other person’s personality that up to now we had only seen in one light.

However, introducing adventures and new emotions does not necessarily mean travelling to trendy places or fitting in with the stereotypes of “the ideal couple’s plans” . You simply have to do what is most significant for both of you, not what allows you to make the best choices.

7. You have to accept yourself deeply

Accepting each other is also about knowing each other’s lights and shadows. Otherwise, the balance of this supposed acceptance will be very precarious and will end up creating conflicts and disruptive situations.

8. Distrust social networks

Social networks and media bombard us every day with prototypes of the perfect couple. Many people become obsessed with the idea of achieving that lifestyle, and are frustrated because they don’t get it .

And the reason they don’t get it is that those couples don’t exist, or at least they don’t exist as they are sold to us. In fact, if this kind of content becomes viralized or is disseminated, it is precisely because it is a corporate or personal marketing product and, therefore, it is false and prefabricated. Blaming our partner or ourselves for not fitting into that prototype love relationship is unfair and totally unfounded.