To think that our life will be perfect is to live in a utopia, especially if we have goals and objectives to pursue and if we are ambitious. On the road to success there are always obstacles to overcome , so we must be prepared to get up when we have a setback.

But the obstacles or hindrances that may arise along the way are not the main problem; what will determine whether we achieve success or not is how we deal with those obstacles . Perseverance, a positive attitude and, above all, getting up despite falls is what will allow us to achieve what we have set out to do through resilience. Whatever the cost.

Successors have also failed at some point

There’s a kind of person who even though things don’t work out the way he wants, he’s always there, fighting for what he thinks he deserves. He is a type of individual who, despite the fact that at a certain moment things do not go well for him, knows that better times will come and that he must be patient. Achievements come with time, with work and effort.

A few months ago, I saw the famous actor Antonio Banderas who had been invited on a TV show, and he told an anecdote that caught my attention. It turns out that the guy was quietly enjoying the Oscars party, when suddenly a man came up to him to congratulate him.

Banderas, not knowing him, asked him who he was. He was the founder of “Uber”, one of the most successful companies in recent times, and talking to each other, he confessed that before things went well and he became a successful character, he had tried to succeed many times with other projects and he owed a lot of money because things did not go well for him. Banderas spoke of him as a clear example of a person who never loses hope and keeps going despite his failures . Quite an example to follow.

Recovering from Failure

Certainly, this way of thinking, what is known as a mentally strong person, is worthy of admiration. Mentally strong people carry out a series of habits that make them who they are. But what makes them so special? What habits or behaviors do they have when they fail? Below you can find the 8 keys to recovering from failure :

1. Acceptance

The first thing to do when you fall and want to get up is to accept that failure is part of life and that it happens to everyone. The case of Uber’s founder is just one example, but there are many more. One should not be hard on oneself when things do not go as planned, and one should know how to take advantage of these falls to learn and grow. In other words, to not make the same mistakes .

2. Look for errors

Once failure has been accepted as normal, then it is necessary to look for mistakes: what made the situation end up like this? Perhaps it was bad planning or perhaps the result was due to causes beyond the person’s control. Whatever the reason, it is necessary to detect it in order to learn from the error.

3. Positive Mind

Clearly it can be demotivating when things don’t go well, and it’s normal to feel a bit discouraged and even sad at first. But after this period of adjustment, it is necessary to adopt a positive and optimistic mentality. We must look to the future with optimism , because a positive attitude can determine whether we will succeed or not, because if we think negatively, everything will seem worse than it is.

4. Have an action plan

If you have carried out point two, you will have detected the mistake or mistakes you have made so that things have not gone well for you. If it was not your fault that you failed, there is no reason to change. However, if it was your fault, now is the time to plan the new situation until you reach the goal you want to achieve . This will give you a clearer vision of what you need to do and will provide you with feedback and motivation as you go along.

5. Don’t complain, act

Therefore, to have a positive mentality it is necessary not to assume the role of victim and to draw strength from weakness. It is good to think that you want to change, but if you don’t take action, you will hardly manage to get up . If you already have a plan of action, the next step is to put it into action and set concrete goals to guide you.

6. Take responsibility for change

It is much easier to blame others than to assume that you are partly to blame for what happens to you . In order to overcome adversity and to get back on your feet after a failure, it is necessary to take responsibility for the change. This means empowering yourself, leading yourself and motivating yourself in bad times.

7. Challenges limiting beliefs

When we fail and blame ourselves for the defeat, it is easy for us to think that we are losers and that getting through these difficult times is not within our reach. You must understand that these words you say to yourself are limiting beliefs , that do not let you advance on the path to success. Therefore, it is necessary that you replace them with empowering beliefs, those that will allow you to overcome the bumps in the road.

8. Trust you

And much of these limiting beliefs will make you believe that you cannot achieve what you want. That’s why you must have full confidence in what you do , otherwise, at the first sign of change you will fall apart. In case you didn’t know, it is possible to improve your self-confidence. If you want to know how to do it, you can read our article: “How to increase self-confidence in 6 steps”