In just a few years, the Internet has revolutionized the way we live. Today we not only buy everything that is unimaginable through the net, but the net has also become a powerful tool for socializing .

While 10 years ago we could look at those who were intimate through those rudimentary chats as “weirdos”, today, in the new generations, the weirdo is the one who has not had a date through the many online contact pages that exist. Whether you are looking to meet someone for a “here I catch you here I kill you” or you want to find the man or woman of your life, the internet has a lot to offer.

Parenting in an innovative way: co-parenting

Moreover, if what you want is to find the future father or mother of your children without having to maintain an affective-sexual relationship between you, it is also possible now. So that you understand me, I am talking about coparentality . Being co-parents means that two people come together with a single desire: to have a child in common .


I imagine that when reading this, certain doubts may come to your mind, which is totally logical, since understanding this new conception forces us to broaden the relational paradigm . In fact, coparentality separates the marital relationship from conception and upbringing, which is the antithesis of the parental style that humanity has been practicing for millennia: children as the fruit of a marital relationship.

A real example to better understand co-parenting

I’ll give you an example that I attended to once in consultation.

Eva is 39 years old and has been working as a team leader in a multinational technology company for 10 years. Since then, her working hours have been extremely long and demanding, which has been a major obstacle to finding the man of her life. Actually she did, but 5 years ago, just before she got married, he had second thoughts and left her.

Since then, Eva, has been living in a job with the idea of being a single mother before she was 40 if she didn’t find anyone . She even went so far as to have tests carried out to carry out an artificial insemination with donor sperm, but before taking the step, an article about coparentality fell into her hands, which was mentioned on a website dedicated to satisfying this need. She found the idea of sharing the upbringing of her future child and having a father figure at the same time very interesting. He also valued very positively the fact of being able to share the expenses that this would imply as well as the time dedicated without having to give up the rest of his life.

Shortly after creating a profile, Eva met Alvaro, a 35-year-old gay man who had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for more than five years. He had always wanted to have children p ero for various reasons ruled out both adoption and surrogacy . As soon as they met, the first thing they did was to reveal their fears “this is very strange, isn’t it?” they said to each other, laughing. They both sensed that before taking the step they had to know each other deeply.

Moreover, they had to become friends , two friends who would share for many years the upbringing, the expenses and the time that it meant to have a child very much desired by both of them.

Being the child of a partner relationship

On a psychological level, the newborn, child or adolescent who is the fruit of a partnership does not have to have any special conflict as long as the parents have a good climate and assume their commitment , this is the only requirement. If the adults manage their day-to-day life well, then the child will be brought up in the same way as any other child who is the fruit of a conventional and well-adjusted couple. It goes without saying that the dramas experienced by many children of conflicting parents are much more harmful to these children.

In reality, co-parenting is nothing more than the result of the changes that society has been experiencing for some decades . Just as today’s social freedom has made it possible to separate sex from marriage, neither is it necessary to be a couple to share parenthood, only personal maturity and common sense.