Throughout history, the differences between men and women have been exaggerated. The fact that each sex has been assigned very different gender roles has meant that for centuries it has been assumed that everything in which “the lady and the gentleman” differ is a product of innate biological differences.

However, there are certain behaviors in which there are very stable differences between men and women: those that for millennia have been associated with reproduction. It is true that nowadays neither romances nor intimate relationships are indivisible from the birth of new generations, but the fact that for millions of years this has been the case has left marks in our bodies and in some predispositions based on our genes.

In this article we will look at some keys to understanding how a straight man can like you . These are attitudes and actions that have been found to be useful, across various cultures and societies, in getting men’s attention. However, it should be noted that these are statistical trends, and each case is unique. In other words, they are not foolproof, but they do reduce the chances of rejection.

How do you like a man? Attitude is the key

It is clear that there are many aspects of physical appearance that help to attract. However, it is not less true that a good percentage of the success that we can have when it comes to seducing has to do with the attitude that we adopt in front of others . In the following sections we will see that, in many ways, being clear about this is the key.

1. If you are happy, show it

It’s that simple. Many women believe that to attract a man it is necessary to maintain a serious or even haughty attitude, repressing one’s own happiness, but this is not true. If not expressing happiness is already a bad idea in itself, it also makes no sense when you want to seduce a straight man.

For example, research published in 2011 found that men found female faces considerably more attractive when they smiled genuinely . This phenomenon, however, was not present when heterosexual women had to rate the attractiveness of male faces.

2. Express yourself

Another myth about women’s traditional roles is that they should adopt a passive and rather discreet role. This idea, besides being discriminatory, does not even correspond to what men consider attractive. For example, in one study it was found that women who gestured more when expressing themselves , and who occupied a greater “vital space” because of their movements, were more seductive.

In short, a good dose of assertiveness is not only useful in the sense that it helps those who use it to be self-assured and have a greater capacity to defend their interests; this is also valued positively in terms of its seductive potential.

3. Take advantage of the color red

Several studies point out that the colour red serves to seduce, especially in the case of wanting to attract the attention of heterosexual men. This could have to do with the fact that we associate the color red with vivid experiences and passions. Therefore, something as simple as using this colour to dress can help to at least attract attention and increase the possibilities of seduction. However, it is also known that wearing red also unconsciously influences how we act. This may be the key.

3. Looking for beauty tricks? Don’t hide the curves

There are many beauty tricks associated with the ability to attract men. However, the vast majority of them are specific to certain societies and cultures. For example, the stereotype of the slim, attractive woman works in the West, but it does not work in certain agricultural societies, where men tend to prefer more robustly constituted partners. Similarly, long hair and blue eyes are also better valued in Western countries, but this is not true in many other places.

However, there is one characteristic that seems to be very stable regardless of the type of society we take as a reference: the relationship between the size of the waist and the size of the hips or, as it is usually called in the Anglo-Saxon world that dominates this kind of research, the waist-hip ratio. Specifically, an ideal waist-hip ratio from the point of view of heterosexual men is estimated at 0.7 or slightly less, dividing the waist circumference by the hip circumference.

This means that the voluptuousness of the hip, which many women hide because of complexes by wearing a costume that conceals curves, is in fact a weapon they can use in seduction. The imposition of extreme thinness has nothing to do with resembling most women or actually attracting more men, but with totally different marketing-based logics.