Attracting women who seduce you is not a gift, it’s what nature dictates. And going against nature, has its consequences .

However, this is something that most “flirts” or seducers around the world have not yet realized. They apply the formula in the opposite way.

Some people flirt… and some people don’t

And yes, applying a “quick formula” – a shortcut – can bring short-term results. Doubtful and unreaching results, in fact. But, like foam, like miracle diets, like pyramid inversions and a long etcetera, those results will fade away as quickly as they “emerged” .

Then – just as you have certainly been a victim in the odd field in your life – you will be a victim of the “rebound effect”: Not only will you have failed to achieve anything solid, but the next time you have to try again, it will probably cost you even more.

The Pyramid of Male Attraction: what is it and what does it teach us?

Watch out! Don’t interpret this as “reactive” with the rest of the men who try to do what they “well can”. It actually saddens me to see that you have not understood anything. They haven’t understood that, just like Maslow’s food pyramid or pyramid of human needs, the pyramid of male attraction is set up completely the opposite way .

In fact… have you paid attention to the formulation of the opening sentence?

Instead of constructing it under the “masculine” perspective – which would be: trying to seduce the women you are most attracted to… Which implies an active role-, we have adopted a feminine psychology . Something that, if you realize, happens when you, as a man, stand out considerably.

Daniel Neighbor – The Hero’s Plan

Women who seduce you have seen something special in you

To make it very evident, thinks of great male references: artists, actors, sportsmen, successful businessmen …

Specifically, think of a famous singer. Far from having to make efforts or inhuman strategies so that some woman, sporadically, decides not to reject a sexual encounter with him, it happens that “curiously”, he has the “obligation” to express his more “frustrating” side – that is, vulnerability, imperfection, defects -, to overcompensate all that exuberant worth and thus, be able to project closeness, familiarity, humanity… For this is the only way to manage to lower their presence to a threshold where they -normal women- connect with it.

That’s why most of his lyrics “reek of goofiness” – no offense – I mean, you, as a man who cultivates himself every day to improve his current version, don’t feel you connect at all with that message we would call “pink porn” .

Men who apply terribly wrong strategies

And that is why, when a simple mortal – who has not understood anything – tries to apply the lyrics of those songs, “die” in the attempt. What you need most, precisely, is what these great men of success have more than enough of: “courage”. So, you have to work on what you are good at and learn to “show it”. Watch out, show it , not show it . In other words, you have to do it subliminally and effectively.

But that’s a subject for another article. Let’s continue with what we have…

How does seduction look from the female perspective?

On this occasion, I want to show you how human courtship looks and feels through the eyes of a woman… when she meets a man “from the crowd” .

And this is a very important detail because the rules of the game are totally different.

In this way, I hope you begin to realize that you should become the kind of man who has stopped seducing-releasing you from all the negative charge to your subconscious-in order to begin to attract.

Now, get comfortable and enjoy how you look – if you don’t stand out – from a woman’s most honest and deepest perspective.

The human courtship -of the mediocre man- from the eyes of a woman

1. I will never take the initiative

And when I use the words “never” and “initiative”, I not only mean that I will never be the one to start the conversation, but that – unless I am particularly “sensitive” at that time and need to “go” – I will not go forward at any time. If you want something, you’ll have to work hard at it , however much I want to.

And get this straight, there are plenty of others interested and my patience is limited…

2. It’s not that I can’t flirt, it’s that you don’t inspire me

Flirting, for an attractive woman like me, is not a challenge -except for hitting the perfect man-. Basically, because there is nothing that attracts men more than knowing how to display your best attributes -and that has nothing to do with dressing like a “slut”.

On the other hand, is a big problem, because with such a strategy, you will attract everything . Especially slimy ones.

If you don’t get out of the way in the first few seconds and get my attention… “next”. I don’t have time to waste, there’s plenty to “distill”.Mediocrity abounds and brings very little.

3. I am not false by malice, I simply have other interests

It is very likely that what you are telling me does not interest me at all . How is it then that I have a big smile, I keep looking at you and I seem to listen with enthusiasm?

It’s one thing what you see and another what may be on my mind. Let’s just say, inside, I have other plans.

Maybe he wants to get “nervous” – jealous as a champion – to another guy I had a thing with and now he’s showing no interest. A “sexy” conversation with you – apart from testing you – could set off alarms in my “real” target. Or, in the worst case, to show me that it was just a roll in the hay and that he’s not really interested in me -bitter, but better to know as soon as possible to turn the page. In which case, you might be lucky… if you pass the millions of tests that await you .

I can also be less twisted and simply seek some peace of mind. To do this I prefer to “pretend” that I have chosen you to “try my luck” that night and, in reality, you are the one I trust the most who will not try anything. In this way, I take off all the flies – harmless but very heavy – and those with whom I don’t feel safe – because they might end up trying something I don’t want to happen. So, thank you for allowing me to be calm, “little bear” .

4. I know the difference between confidence and arrogance

Going “macho” and bragging about what you have or have achieved does not show you as a man of integrity . A mile away I perceive that you are trying to compensate for shortcomings.

Every time I have had the privilege of meeting a man with complete confidence, I have been amazed at how little need he shows for validation. The total – and healthy – disinterest in trying to impress me and that attractive attitude of caring so little about what I criticize about him because he is so comfortable with his congruence. Because he has a solid foundation, a firm base… he is a man you can feel firm, confident about – and to whom you can give yourself blindfolded… And I’m going to stop talking about a man like that because I get “bad”.

5. Your presence is the most important thing

While for you -common man- the most important thing is “what you see” -and in your personal case, how you look-, for me, what I see is important, it is a minimum, but it is not enough .

To do this, you must be able to understand the difference between “appearance” and “presence”.

As explained in the following video, I refer you to him.

6. I am very clear about what I don’t want

And since what I want is not so clear to me, I better do what I do best: discard .

Maybe I was wrong about you and you deserve a second chance. With all due respect, that is irrelevant to me because there are so many to choose from that I’m sure I can use any other “worthwhile” one.

Besides, if you give up on a first rejection, are you really worth it?

I’m afraid, in that case, my friend, you’ve “accepted” that you haven’t. But don’t confuse perseverance with being tiresome.

If you want to go deeper into concepts like that, I recommend that you subscribe to the free video course in the video description.

7. I know, I’m your only option

And not precisely because I am talking to a selective man who only allows “the chosen one” access to “his heart” but because you have also failed with the previous ones .

In fact, when I meet a man who makes me feel like a winner, I automatically assume that I’m not the only one-regardless of whether it’s true-and that if I want to aspire to that privilege, I’ll have to show that I’m much more than a pretty face and a heart-stopping body.

8. Being so attractive can be a curse

It may be the envy of those who have not been lucky enough to be born with such sexy genes – or who do not know how to take advantage of them or are not determined to work on them to get their full potential -, but the truth is that everything has its downside .

Although it’s true that I wouldn’t trade myself in for a worse version of myself – no way! And yes, I continue to strive to improve myself every day – great power comes with great responsibility. And great responsibility in the wrong hands can be a nightmare.

Do you know the kind of “unpleasant” men I meet in my day-to-day life who try to get my attention in more than unfortunate ways?I’m convinced that being a hot girl is not something we’re all ready for. That’s why I understand that many don’t even try.

At first it may seem very nice -especially in youth-, but as novelty -feeling irresistible- becomes everyday life and finally monotony -man’s behavior repeats itself every day like an endless pattern-, life becomes predictable and boring. To the point where you don’t want to go out alone to get a break or you don’t want to go anywhere and mingle with everyone… for self-respect.

This is why it is important to understand what effect you have on others and to learn how to manage it properly . Something not easy, but necessary, if you want, not only to have mental health, but a full life – there are wonderful men waiting for you if you know how to manage “your power”.

9. The more you attract me, the more I will criticize you

This is something that has been very hard for me to understand, but it has been magical for my emotional and mental health.

To sum it up very, very much, as a woman, I am attracted to a man who is sure of himself and who does not need me . But that makes me feel very, very insecure. Therefore, I need to check that I am important enough for him to be able to trust that he wants the best for me.

This leads to a host of contradictions. Contradictions that are like fire and air: cannot exist without each other but require balance . An excess of either can kill the other.

For example:

  • I need to know that I am special and unique to him . But if that’s too obvious… my libido drops. Knowing that there are other women interested and that they could be potential threats, takes away some of that “security” and puts me on alert… by lighting the flame.
  • I love a man who is self-sufficient and knows what he wants . If he is so determined that he doesn’t need me at all, I feel that I am not so special anymore. Therefore, he should know how I can help him so that I feel useful and valued – although it’s much better if I’m able to do it. On the contrary, he should know how to listen to my criticism and differentiate between useful and “trash”.Many times emotions win the battle and we criticize just out of spite. When a man agrees to this “emotional blackmail” he loses quite a few of his assets. However, if he remains firm and consistent with what he wants, no matter how angry he shows me, deep down I love it. That’s why a lot of arguments end up with sex.Besides, if I interpret that it is not only congruent with his ideal but he understands that I am this way out of spite and not because he considers that I am right, I understand that I am with a man with a superior emotional intelligence and there he has me “crazy lost”, even though my ego prevents me from showing it and I can get even more angry with any insinuation about it.

I hope I’ve helped you with a little light and discouraged you from walking the right path.

By way of conclusion

As you have seen, the way you see the world is completely different and, without that information, you not only play at a disadvantage but you are “out” .

On the other hand, the only way to release your irresistible attraction is by understanding the psychology behind it and learning to apply it to your personal case. And, you’ll agree with me that the greatest experts on attractiveness are women.

So, tell me, what surprised you about this female vision? Have you lived a similar experience? Do you have something else to contribute?I’ll wait for you in the debate, downstairs, in the comments.