How long has it been since you experienced your love break-up? Has it been weeks, months, years maybe? And in all this time, even though what you want most is to get over that separation, you still feel pain, you still remember the good times and you still can’t imagine being happy again without your ex?

If so, you should know that part of everything you feel is a common reaction and is part of the process of overcoming a separation. Yes, having all those negative emotions and thoughts is common, however, you can’t allow yourself to stagnate and deny yourself the opportunity to build a new life without your ex .

Overcoming the fear of rebuilding your life without your ex-partner

The experience of a love breakup is the end of a stage in your life, but it is also, whether you want it or not, the beginning of a new one.

After all, life goes on, your obligations are still present, and you certainly have decades to live. Therefore, stagnating cannot be an option . You have the power to rebuild your life after a separation and with this article I want to motivate you to do so.

Today I want to talk exclusively about one of the biggest barriers that hinder the process of overcoming a love break : the fear of rebuilding your life without your ex. Let’s understand the problem from the beginning.

You started a love relationship and with that person you lived different experiences that united you as a couple. You walked together hand in hand, saw, laughed, lived in intimacy, etc. You both integrated into each other’s social groups, interacting with friends and family, and even made future plans. So, little by little, during the whole time you were in that love relationship, you built a lifestyle together with your ex.

But now, the love relationship is over and you have to face the lifestyle you built with your ex; the difference is that now you have to live it without his help.
Now you must attend meetings alone and the first few times you will have to make it clear that your ex will not be present again. You will want to keep your distance from certain friends who are related to your ex and of course, there will be certain daily activities that will remind you of the absence of your loved one .

In other words, your life is framed by a lifestyle tied to your ex, and the longer you stay that way, the harder it will be for you to get over the separation.

What’s stopping you from rebuilding your life without your ex?

You are reading this article because you have the desire to overcome the love breakup you experienced, but you don’t know how to do it or you feel you won’t be able to.
But think about what is preventing you from rebuilding your life without your ex’s shadow. Is it perhaps the pain you feel at the thought that all your dreams have vanished? Is it perhaps because everything around you reminds you of your ex? Or perhaps you feel that you depend on the presence of your ex to get you through it?

Any of these reasons will generate an immense fear of facing the world without your ex-partner . However, most of these fears are generated by your own mental barriers and can be dealt with successfully.

To achieve this you must start by being willing to do so and then change your mental focus to claim that you can rebuild your life without your ex. Think, for example, of your dreams. Did you perhaps dream of taking a trip? If so, you must understand that you can still do it, regardless of your ex’s absence. Plan the fulfillment of this dream considering that it will not be like you planned with your ex, it will simply be different.

Look around and identify everything that reminds you of your ex and eliminate everything that is not indispensable . You don’t need to keep the pictures and memories. You also don’t need to keep the same decoration and layout of your home. So don’t be afraid and get rid of everything that torments you by reminding you of your ex’s absence.

Perhaps your problem is that you feel you are entirely dependent on your ex, because if so, you must be sure that you are capable of living without your ex. You may not know how many things work, but today you live surrounded by information and you can always learn to do it yourself. And even if you feel you need help, you need to look beyond the dependency you have on your ex, and ask your family and friends for support.

You have the power to overcome the love break-up you experienced and to rebuild your life. Believing in you is the first step to achieving this .

Getting out of your comfort zone is part of the way to overcoming separation

Yes, living an overcoming is an extremely painful situation and implies a great restructuring in your life. That’s why you have to get out of your comfort zone without letting the discomfort stop you.

There will be moments of pain and you will experience various reactions to the sadness caused by the absence of your ex. This is all common and normal. Your emotions have a special value in this process and you should give yourself a moment to experience the mourning and sadness of your separation and thus mark the end of one stage and the beginning of the next.

Yes, if there is a next stage after what you experienced with your ex and it is in that process that you should embark.

Now that the relationship is over, it’s time to decide to build a new life without your ex’s shadow. It’s time to build a new lifestyle that will help you overcome the break-up you experienced. How do you do that? Here are 2 ideas to achieve this.

1. Discover

Write a list of at least 5 activities you would like to do in the next 3 months. Even better if these activities are new to you, this way they will encourage your brain to concentrate more on using your abilities and this, in turn, will boost your self-esteem .

Surround yourself with people and seek to discover something new about each of them, take an interest in their lives and ask questions. Consider that at this time your ex is very present in your thoughts and therefore it is better if the conversation is focused and directed by other people.

Find out what features you admire in other people and look to get them yourself. To do this, include in your address book reminders about the attitude you want to have and about the description of yourself that you want to define from now on.

2. Take action, one step at a time

Understand that overcoming the love breakup you experienced is a process, not something that will happen overnight. It will begin with the decision to actually overcome it, continue with every activity you do to achieve it, and culminate with the day you accept the lessons of the past and feel satisfied with the life you lead.
And since it is a process, you must start with one step at a time.

Every day is a new opportunity to leave the past behind and focus on your present. Every day you have the option to choose new activities to get involved in , new topics to talk about and new people to meet. And it all happens gradually with every decision you make.
So ask yourself: what keeps you from focusing on rebuilding your life?

Life goes on

Whether or not you overcome the fear of building a life without your ex, life goes on quickly.

Surely you have noticed that even in those days when you felt you could not get out of bed, obligations were still present. Even though you had no head to think about anything, the routine continued as usual, responsibilities remained and time passed.

But pay attention, there is a big difference between time passing and you still being stuck in the love break you lived, or time passing and every day you do something more to overcome your ex and regain your inner peace. Life goes on and you have the power to decide how much of your present life you will devote to a past relationship .

Now, I understand you’re not used to going out and introducing yourself to the world. I understand if you’re scared because you got used to doing everything with the help of your ex. I can imagine that you have defeatist thoughts before you try and that you’re tempted to boycott your goal of overcoming it. But you should know that you are the only builder of all those mental barriers and therefore you are also the only one who has the power to break them down.
The decision is in your hands.

Do you want to get over the breakup you went through? Then, decide to do it and concentrate your activities, thoughts and attitudes on the fact that it is possible to achieve it.

Good luck and see you soon.