Throughout our lives we encounter unpleasant experiences or sensations that are repeated , as if we lived inside a circle and did not find the way out.

They can be experiences related to your emotions (fear, anger, guilt, insecurity or distress), your self-esteem (the way you look and relate), your personal relationships (break-ups, dependency or lack of assertiveness) or even in the professional arena (feeling like you have a roof over your head or feeling too much stress, low productivity and lack of control at work). **How do you get out of that circle? **

The only way to achieve change in your life is through your own personal change. However, real, authentic and deep change is not something you achieve with videos or talks but by living a deep process of change where you discover what needs to change or develop about you so that everything else changes. You cannot change what happens outside but you can change the way you relate to yourself, to others and to the world.

That’s what’s going to change everything. There are 4 keys to making real changes in your life and today you can start applying them.

Why does it sometimes not work?

In many cases people try to achieve change over and over again and rarely succeed . Many people go to the psychologist or to other types of activities (workshops, courses, etc.) and do not achieve the expected changes.

Of course, this does not invalidate psychology, which is the training needed to accompany a person in a process of real change. The problem is that the method does not accompany the person in a process of real change, but imposes a previous theory or just resignation to what happens without really there is a plan with different actions that will lead to your change. A real change, lasting, deep, where you discover what is wrong and how to fix it. In short… results, but not material results, but results of life, welfare, emotional and human.

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Key 1: have a goal

Many people believe that the goal is somewhat rigid and that it is better to “flow”. However, it is not incompatible. In fact, having a goal is absolutely necessary and essential , as it commits you and guides you towards the change you want.

If you later discover that your goal and the change you need is another one, it doesn’t matter. The important thing is that having a goal has made you start living changes. Without a goal, you remain within that circle.

Key 2: commitment

When the commitment is not 100% there are usually small excuses when it comes to living that change that finally turn into a snowball. This is why many attempts fail. Your commitment must be total to live your process , from the beginning to the end, where the change and the results come.

Key 3: the time factor

Imagine your goal is to lose five pounds. It’s totally different if you plan to lose six pounds in three months… than in three weeks. In 3 months it is very possible that the time will be so long that you will not lose them, while in 3 weeks it is totally possible and that will make you have more concentration in your feeding, rest or exercise. If you also plan to lose 3 kilos but do not know when… the process will become infinite and the changes will never come.

This is the main problem of accompaniment methods. If you don’t know in how long you want to achieve change, the approach will be much less .

Key 4: the expert company

The expert company is not the one that gives you advice, guides you or orients you, but the one that accompanies you like an expert mirror, helps you to see yourself and to broaden your point of view and to go deeper into what is happening. But, above all, expert company generates a commitment that makes you look for different actions and therefore your learning is accelerated and becomes deeper and more stable. The expert company is also what guarantees that the change is 100% a reality and not just another attempt.

Your well-being and personal development is more important than any other distraction. If you want to achieve change, be the change and go for it .