On many occasions, and possibly most of the time, deciphering what goes on in the other person’s head is practically impossible . However, when a person shows attraction towards another person, he or she usually expresses it unconsciously. If you want to know if that person you like and who has been stealing your thoughts for a few weeks now, is looking forward to spending time with you, keep reading this article because you will be interested.

The person who is attracted to you will rarely tell you, but it is possible to detect the signals they give off. A study carried out by Albert Mehrabian concluded that when we speak face to face with a person, verbal communication is only 35 percent , while non-verbal language occupies 65 percent of our conversation. As Mari Smith, an interpersonal communication coach, says, with a little observation you can determine whether someone is attracted to you or not.

Since communication is a determining factor in the success of our interpersonal relationships, thanks to our article “10 basic communication skills” you can improve it.

The chemistry of love: a powerful hormonal cocktail

The truth is that when we are attracted to someone, it is extremely difficult to hide it. We have already talked in our article “The Chemistry of Love: A Very Potent Drug” about the neurochemical cascade that occurs in the brain when we fall in love. In fact, we only have to observe how people change their own behavior when they are “caught” by that special being that becomes their great motivation.

Lack of love can also lead to depression if we do not know how to channel the emotions that are generated when we want to be with someone. And like the drug itself, when we fall in love or feel physical attraction to a person a series of physiological and psychological reactions occur that we cannot avoid.

Signs that you are attracted to someone

If you like someone or someone likes us, it’s hard not to smile or show characteristic eye contact, since we want to merge into the other person’s body, and whatever happens, that’s our goal.

David Givens, an anthropologist specializing in non-verbal communication, states in his book Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship : “Despite the technological advances and development that we humans have undergone in the last century, when we speak of the silent signs of physical attraction we are no different from other species in the animal kingdom. Since the origins of living beings, animals have always used certain signals that are intended to communicate interest in the opposite sex”.

But what are these signs that give us away when we like someone? How can we know if the person we like wants more than just a friendship? To find out, you just have to keep reading.

Signs of physical attraction

According to Givens, there are four unmistakable signs that someone is attracted to you . If you see one of them, it is a good sign, but if you see all four, then you are in front of the evidence that the other person likes you and is willing to be with you alone.

1. Raised shoulders

Biologists call the raised shoulder posture the “sweet answer” , because it reveals a tender part, i.e. it shows signs that you are open towards the other person.

2. Pigeon Fingers

Moving the feet inwards is a sign of physical attraction , but it also shows that the other person feels intimidated, so it is a way of shrinking the body to appear less threatening.

3. Palms up

A person who is interested in you usually has his palms up when he is relaxed . This gesture generates an attitude of openness and vulnerability towards the other person, which translates into a friendly and accessible attitude.

4. Arched front

If a person bends his head slightly and looks up at you from under his forehead, he invites you to come closer . This is another sign that can warn us that someone feels a special interest in you.

Other signs that show physical attraction

In addition to the above signals, there are also other signals that can denote physical attraction . Let’s see what they are below.

5. Dilated pupils

If someone looks at you and feels attracted to you, their pupils dilate (get bigger) , according to the conclusions of a study carried out by the University of Chicago. It’s a completely involuntary response, and according to Dr. Eckhard Hess, one of the researchers who conducted the study, this reaction has nothing to do with the amount of light where the two people are.

6. Aligned bodies

According to Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped! All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall Madly in Love With You and Marry ‘The One’ in 3 Years or Less , people who are unconsciously attracted to each other try to align themselves with the other person . Where the feet point, the heart follows.

Men and women give different signals when they feel physical attraction

Although they tend to agree on some signs, men and women may behave differently in some respects. Men also tend to bow their heads just like women, and both smile more when attracted to a person.

When a man is interested in a woman , he usually:

  • Smile more.
  • Make more eye contact than usual
  • Perform more self-care behaviors, such as putting on a tie
  • Standing or sitting upright.
  • Push shoulders back and chest out.
  • Make comments on your work, your money, your car, etc.

On the other hand, women may show the following signs :

  • Smile more (like men)
  • Make more eye contact (like men)
  • Bending over to the other person of the opposite sex.
  • Expose your neck, hands or palms.
  • Take care of your skin more than usual.
  • Move and touch your hair.
  • Cross and uncross your legs.

Now you know what to look out for next time you meet a girl you’re interested in. Before you finish, you should know that alcohol makes you more attracted to another person.

If you want to know more about this, you can visit our article: “Why do we find other people more attractive when we drink alcohol?