During every second of the day you are feeling some kind of emotion . Whether it is fear, anger, guilt, insecurity, or calm, peace, joy or illusion, emotions are always present in one form or another.

In this way, your emotional state influences not only your mood, but all the decisions you make. This emotional energy, then, is the fundamental motor for living a full life, getting to know you better and improving yourself and growing as a person or professional.

For 10 years I have accompanied people in private change processes aimed at achieving very different objectives as a psychologist and coach; however, I have discovered that emotion management is the fundamental pillar of both personal and professional development . Do you want to learn to have emotions on your side instead of against you?

What are emotions for?

Emotions are a basic energy that helps you to know yourself, to know what situation you are in and what you interpret about yourself, others or the environment.

Although we often talk about “negative” emotions, there are not really any negative emotions per se, but rather more pleasant or unpleasant emotions. All emotions are positive and necessary . Fear helps you to protect yourself and anger helps you to know that something that happens is not good for you in principle. But… everything your emotions tell you is true?

Your emotions only inform you, but everything depends on how you understand those emotions and know how to manage them.

Feeling fear, anger or guilt is normal, but feeling a fear that paralyzes you or does not allow you to move forward in your life, an anger that conquers your day-to-day life and makes you feel more stressed and hinders your personal relationships, or a guilt or insecurity that makes you feel bad for too long and with too much intensity is not something positive, and a reflection that you are not managing your emotions well .

How do you learn to understand and manage your emotional side?

Since the term “emotional intelligence” became popular, we have learned that emotions are not our “irrational” side, but rather a fundamental part of our well-being, personal development , improvement of personal relationships (both as a couple and as a family) and also of our professional development (knowing how to manage your emotions will help you to focus better on your work, know how to lead your team better, have better relationships with colleagues or clients or undertake with better results).

However, despite the large number of books, training and courses that exist, these resources do not work by themselves. A course or book is only information, but it does not help you to live a real process of change.

The problem is this: your current way of managing your emotions is a learning process . A learning process that has probably taken place throughout your life.

To learn to understand and manage your emotions you must live a process of change where you find out how you manage your emotions now and learn to manage them in a more functional way, working deeply and holistically both with different actions and with your belief system, personal relationships, relationship between your communication and management of emotions, and even between the relationship that exists with your values and identity.

A deep process of change is only possible with a plan of action (with different actions that help you to better understand your emotions and manage them in a more functional and positive way) and, of course, the expert and professional company that helps you to broaden your point of view and discover all that you can achieve by having your emotions in your favour rather than against you.

Human beings work like mirrors, and that company is what will make the process work.

Enhancing the learning process

In Empoderamiento Humano (empoderamientohumano.com), online personal development school, you can start now and for free the program Emociónate to take the first steps in that process of emotion management.

And if you really want to take the step and live a deep change process of 3 months and with expert company, you can ask for information about , a real change process in emotion management to improve your life and experiences thanks to your emotions. I can only accompany a small number of people privately at a time, so please ask for information as soon as possible to reserve your place.

Emotions can make your life better or harder, but it is not the emotions that are responsible, but the way you understand and handle those emotions. Having your emotions on your side is the best decision you can make.