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Types of seducer: which one do you identify with the most?

In The Art of Seduction , the psychologist Robert Greene describes up to nine archetypes of seducers. Or ten types of seducers, if we consider the figure of the anti-seducer. In this extensive book you will find a historical and psychological analysis of the great personalities of humanity.

It is not enough to know techniques or stratagems to attract and be a great seducer. Sometimes, self-knowledge is the key to knowing your strengths and how they can play in your favor. We can all be great seducers, we just have to find that inner light that enlivens our charisma and makes us gain confidence and self-esteem. As Oscar Wilde , one of the most outstanding seducers in history, said, “loving oneself is the beginning of an adventure that lasts a lifetime “.

But first, take a look at this article: “10 ways to be more attractive (scientifically proven)”

Then we will discover the 9 (plus 1) archetypes of seduction to start this journey to self-knowledge and personal development.

1. The Mermaid

Inaccessible, divine, charming. There’s only one in a group of friends. She’s both near and far. She’s the muse of poets, the girl who makes rulers lose their heads. Robert Greene tells that Cleopatra was one of them. We will detect a Mermaid by her gestures, her delicacy, her way of dressing very similar to that of the goddesses.

2. The Libertine

Very associated with the figure of the “macarra”, it makes you live unique experiences. Among the different types of seducers, the tough guy never goes out of fashion. Transgressive and confident, he knows that his charm is born from the most primal instincts. He lives on the edge, breaking all the rules so that adrenaline runs through your body. If he has to kiss, he kisses for sure. If he has to look at you, he goes deep inside you. He can make you do all the crazy things you can’t imagine because nothing can happen to you with him.

3. The Ideal Lover

Expert in illusionism; everything in it is artifice. He creates perfect, seamless romances. He is able to make women feel comfortable and desired. Everything in him is a function written to seduce the most demanding ladies. He masters context, he can talk, but above all he listens. Everything is perfect because he makes it perfect. If he invites you to a dinner he will delight you with his best cooking skills; if he invites you to a walk, he will choose the best landscape, the best decoration.

4. The Dandy

Unclassifiable, androgynous, elegant, ironic… like the libertine, will make you feel free. He’s one of the most dynamic and unpredictable types of seducer. He plays with masculinity and femininity. You can never define him because when you think about him, he’s already changed. They use their physical appearance to suggest, like the Mermaid. He masters social skills like the Ideal Lover, but when you try to classify him, he disappears. If you try to understand him, you get confused… Robert Greene tells that Rodolfo Valentino was one of the most important Dandys.

5. Candide

He’s a naive and playful child. Society has failed to tame him.Mozart was one of them. He makes the hard part seem easy. Everything seems like a game to him. Candide has the harmless charm of a baby and the subversive skills of a rogue. He possesses a magnetic unconsciousness. It’s impossible to get angry with him because he has no malice.

6. The Coquette

This archetype is attributed to girls but there can also be flirtations. When you go, she comes back . Cancel the appointments. She appears at the most unexpected moment. She is always late for her appointments if she has not decided to stand you up. The more she manages to get your attention, the less she wants it. If you chase her, you are lost. If you try to ignore her, you will despair.

7. The Enchanter

The seduction without sex . She will give you what you want without asking for anything in return. She will know how to flatter you and make you feel comfortable. Master the context and you will feel that you can be at ease with it. He will not do or say anything that could make you feel bad. It seems that sex does not interest him, you will not distrust him. They show themselves as a friend; they understand you, listen to you, help you, know how to advise you and make you happy. All this stratagem will help you to appreciate them and ask yourself one question: does he or she like me or not? Sometimes it will seem that you do and sometimes it will seem that you are just friends. But the truth is that if you ask yourself this question you will have already fallen into their net.

8. The Charismatic

He’s the center of attention. Everyone wants to be close to him because he is a source of laughter and fun . Nobody gets bored around it. It is easy to detect him because at parties he always has a lot of people around listening to him and laughing at his ideas. He is safe and confident. He knows how to get excited. When he talks he doesn’t inform, he inspires. He would make a great politician or a great comedian or a great storyteller. He masters the art of communication. He has all those attributes that others don’t have.

9. The Star

Attractive and stylish. They have a life that others don’t have. It’s the archetype of the celebrities. Their unique and unusual life is a magnet for everyone. Their life is eccentric and always surprises you. He goes into places where they would never let you in if you didn’t go with him. But not everything about him is luxury. It’s also a passion for his own life and his abilities. Being by his side will make you escape from the mundane and vulgar. He’ll make you live an endless number of experiences that only he can offer you. The Star archetype is synonymous with glamour.

These are the archetypes that Robert Greene defines in The Art of Seduction. You must discover which one resides in you. Explore yourself and analyze which one you fit into. We all fit into one of them. And if we don’t, then we’re probably fitting into this last archetype.

10. The Anti-Seducer

Insecure, self-centered, unsympathetic: repellent. They can’t communicate. They’re angry at the world. They have little or no mastery of social skills. They don’t know when they have enough. They don’t know when they need them. They are unwelcome. They talk when they shouldn’t and shut up when they have to. They are overconfident or, on the contrary, have no confidence at all.

Luckily one can escape this archetype. You just have to enhance your personal charisma and social skills. A good way to start is to work on self-esteem and overcome shyness. And another way is to take a look at my article on ‘How not to flirt’.