When they arrive at the consultation, 75% of my clients have been waiting until the last moment to take the step of consulting a psychologist.
The last moment is the one where the person is so exhausted from suffering that he or she no longer has the amount of energy necessary to carry out the strategy that the psychologist offers, to solve the problem that has led him or her to consult.
Why don’t people go to a psychologist?
To date, only 25% of people see a psychologist as a preventive measure .
It is in this 75% that people who will develop a disorder as a result of enduring the stress situation for too long a period of time are found.
In other words, the set of symptoms sustained over time results in a symptomatic enshrinement that is called a disorder.
What are disorders?
Disorders are sets of symptoms that last for more than three months and have already settled into a person’s functioning system.
When I ask people who come for consultation why they have waited so long to do so, the answers I receive are in the following order… “I wanted to do it myself”, “I didn’t want to ask for help, as I’ve never needed to”…, “I don’t like telling my problems to a stranger”… etc.
That is to say, all of them are answers that denote static beliefs and the presence of scepticism , which results in their not daring to trust the professional regarding emotional issues, nor their own improvement… perhaps at that moment they do not even believe they can be helped.
What’s the point of going to the psychologist?
After a first visit, the psychologist stops being a stranger and after the initial presentation of the professional of his skills such as empathy, understanding and active listening, it is then that he passes to occupy a place of reference and relevance, in the personal development of the person he consults.
Psychology serves to save a person’s time.
Psychology and the psychologist allow a person to think, during a limited period of time of his life, in a methodical way , and dedicate himself to evaluate together with a specialist in personal growth, what is happening in his environment and in himself, identifying symptoms, problems and looking for the best way to resolve conflicts that in the course of the client’s life have appeared more or less recently.
Psychology allows you to resolve emotional suffering more quickly.
The simple act of sorting out thoughts and emotions with a mental health professional is clear enough to begin to glimpse some hope in the face of the discomfort.
Subsequently, the planning and decision on the circumstances that are occurring and that must be modified, this time with success, in the life of the person who consults, will end up reorganizing the discomfort in a short period of time.
Thinking is one of the hardest jobs there is, as Henry Ford said, and it takes time and effort and creativity. However, creativity is a skill that can be perfectly trained.
That is why doing the work of thinking, in a moment of mental saturation or stress, becomes an unattainable task.
When a client goes to a psychologist’s office looking for a solution to get out of the state he is in, what the psychologist will prescribe will not be able to be applied yet, because the patient’s strength in relation to his abilities is diminished.
During the number of sessions that the person needs, the psychologist will have to do a work of accompaniment together with the client , until the client can recover his capacities and abilities, and from there generate together, psychologist and client the expectation that the improvement is a possible and probable option.
This lack of expectation is inherent to the client’s current situation. It is part of the psychologist’s job to increase this expectation and initiate a process of personal improvement, which will resolve the client’s situation, much earlier than it would have been, without the application of psychology to his or her circumstance.
With the psychologist, solutions are developed earlier .