Generally, we associate attraction with physical appearance and believe that beautiful people are real aces when it comes to seducing and conquering people of the opposite or same sex in the sex of non-heterosexuals.
But this, in fact, is not so. There are many other qualities that people who are not physically attractive can bring to a relationship. You only have to look around to realize that the most beautiful people are not necessarily with beautiful partners.
Why we like ugly people
But, what makes ugly people look attractive? Why are some ugly people a real magnet for women?
Here are some scientific facts that support the theory that uglies also bind:
1. Relationships last longer
Many relationships are often broken by conflicts that may arise in the relationship, and attractive people can generate quite a few points of conflict based on jealousy, selfishness and even insecurity. Evidently it is not possible to generalize, since there are physically attractive people who are very humble. But people who know they don’t have that potential for physical attractiveness can become experts in social skills to counteract that deficit and, moreover, will do their best to keep the relationship alive, striving every day to make it work. When good things are scarce, you have to keep them anyway.
In fact, it is common to see couples in which one of the two is attractive and the other not . According to the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology , when this happens, the person tries much harder to keep his or her partner attractive. Another study published in the British newspaper Daily Mail states that women marry men who are uglier than they are because they have longer marriages.
2. Ugly people are more helpful and show more affection
It can be hard to hear this, but the ugly ones are more helpful and show more affection . This has to do with their past experiences, because very attractive people, whom everyone admires, tend to be colder and more conceited because they get everything easily.
In the end, what each person seeks is to feel loved . When the person feels that he or she is being treated with respect, it is harder for him or her to stop because he or she has no reason to blame the other person . For James McNulty, a researcher at the University of Tennessee (United States), what women want is support from their partners and to feel special. The ugly man feels that his partner is on a pedestal and so he treats her very well.
You have to be careful with this kind of statement, because there are also attractive boys and beautiful girls who are very intelligent. However, in the art of love, people who are less likely to have a partner need to make more of an effort to be taken into account. This forces them to reflect and look for alternatives that allow them to have opportunities with the person they like.
In addition, there are also many women who are attracted to their partner’s intellect , and this is what is called being saposexual. Intelligence can make a person feel excited.
- You can learn more about this in our article: &quot;Sapiosexuality: being attracted to intelligence&quot;
4. They have more self-confidence
It might seem that being physically attractive gives you more self-confidence, but that’s not true. We all know that ugly person who enjoys his life or that beautiful person who has become too much of a perfectionist and always has to live up to society’s standards.
When a person does not pay as much attention to the acceptance of others and cares about himself, he enjoys greater well-being and a healthier personality. This is what is explained by research published in the English newspaper, The Telegraph , in one of its articles. The same newspaper explains that ugly people are more self-confident .
When someone is not so physically attractive, they have to develop other love and attraction skills that invite other people into their lives to make up for the not-so-pretty. Therefore, ugly people tend to counteract this with a much more open and warm attitude , states the same research of the British newspaper The Telegraph .
6. They are more fertile
Research carried out by the University of Oxford and University College London produced some really curious results about the intimate relationships of unattractive men. According to their conclusions, ugly men ejaculate more seminal fluid than handsome ones .
7. They are better lovers
People who are not physically attractive are more dedicated to their partner , and give everything to make the other person feel great. This also includes interpersonal relationships. In fact, ugly people are often better lovers in order to please their partners. This is consistent with a study by German sociologist Ulrich Rosar, conducted with soccer players.
He claims that the less attractive ones perform better in a game of this sport. This is because the good-looking ones do not have to do much to give a good image, as people positively associate physical attractiveness with good qualities such as discipline or creativity. The ugly ones, on the other hand, have to work at it.
Ugly people, although many people do not think so, can also be attractive . In fact, this happens very often because as they do not have a great physical appearance, they have to put into practice a series of skills that counteract their poor physical beauty.
Love and attraction are complex phenomena involving many variables, but when it comes down to it, we all want to be loved, respected and cared for. The ugly ones put all their efforts into that. Being ugly is not so bad after all.