Why men love bad girls
Those girls who never answer calls and leave you on “read” on WhatsApp. Those girls. Even if we do things right, they’re women who rarely listen to us: To them we seem almost invisible .
In the end, we make a mess of things and don’t stop thinking that we are to blame for the situation: “Why doesn’t she call me,” “I am too little man for her,” “I don’t understand anything,” and similar lamentations.
Bad girls, a guide to understanding them
Many women believe (and rightly so) that the female sex has been treated unfairly for centuries, and that even today girls have to deal with many prejudices and grievances compared to men. It is a frustrating feeling to see that you have fewer opportunities in life because of something as arbitrary as being born a woman.
In the area of love relationships, women have also suffered a lot . They have been treated little less than as objects, used for procreation, violated and not at all. With all this cultural background, it is not uncommon for inequalities to continue to exist and for some to believe that they should act as a “complement” to their boyfriends or husbands. This is a totally erroneous idea, but one that continues to exist even in the 21st century.
Obviously, more and more girls are shedding these stereotypes and deciding to act with autonomy and freedom .
Women who assert themselves… maybe a little too much
Have you ever met a “bad girl”? They are those women who take their independence to the ultimate consequences. Okay, it may sound a bit harsh to refer to them with a negative adjective (“bad”): after all, they are fully entitled to act in the way they think best, aren’t they?
But, what is undeniable is that boys (or gay girls) who pretend to have a romantic relationship with these bad girls end up completely unhinged, bewildered and not knowing what is going on around them.
Why do some men sigh for the bad girls?
In another article of Psychology and Mind , called “Dark Triad: why women prefer tough guys”, we already realized that there is something in the personality of “bad” men that especially attracts women.
But this can be a phenomenon that not only helps men to be more attractive and captivate women. It can also happen the other way around, there are also “Dark Triad” girls who are starting to impose their rules.
The attraction of complicated relationships
Human beings tend to try impossible ventures. We like to play the leading role in the Odyssey and try to achieve absolutely heroic goals. It could be that there is something in that psychological deposit that drives us to have a predilection for those love relationships that are more complicated.
To tell the truth, nobody likes something that everybody can have without effort . We are like that: we like what is exclusive, what has cost us sweat and tears to have. It’s a bit pitiful that we have this taste for the exclusive, especially when we talk about material goods. After all, a utility car takes you to the same place as a spectacular sports car. But…
This works similarly when it comes to finding a partner. We become obsessed with those people who make it difficult for us , who make us suffer and who give us one of lime and one of sand. We have this point of masochism, and we cannot avoid it.
Good women and not so good women
Many women have realized that being nice and accommodating to their boyfriends is bad business. All they get is to be ignored and manipulated by them. The “not so good” women have simply learned to play with other cards .
These types of girls are usually characterized by being more independent, autonomous in their love life, proactive and uncomplicated. They have a life beyond being tied to a man, they have varied hobbies and passions. If we look at it in a slightly critical way, we can also say that bad girls can be elusive and detached .
How do these kind of girls act?
I would like to make one thing clear: I do not want to make any value judgments about “good” or “bad” girls, despite the fact that the labels are these. Anyone has the right to act as they please, and no one should judge another person .
Nor is it about promoting the habits and attitudes of “good” or “bad” girls. I simply want to describe some trends and reflect on them, or at least serve as a starting point for you, as a reader, to question some things.
Relationships are always difficult. It is possible that, if we stop to think about the rise of bad girls, we realize that perhaps we have once been victims or executioners of this type of relationship.
Through a total of five keys, we can try to understand the psychology of difficult women and the reason why we find them more attractive , in general. And, of course, we will know why they hurt us so much.
In the end, women who meet these characteristics have some incredible virtues: they love themselves, are demanding with their interpersonal relationships and know that, in this life, the most important thing starts by taking care of oneself.
Law 1: Attraction is based on authenticity
It doesn’t have to be women with super exciting lives for them to have us crazy about them. They are simply girls who don’t give much importance to having a boyfriend . They are natural, they are the way they are and they are not going to adapt to you in order to please you. In any case, adapt yourself to them.
Law 2: Challenge
What challenges us is more valuable . When we feel that we have control over something or someone, we may lose interest. But when being with someone challenges us every day, the attraction increases. Some girls know this and use it.
Law 3: They like each other a lot
Bad girls like each other, and a lot of . This attitude allows them to be perceived by others as well: as very valuable, self-confident and seductive. This is the basis of everything: women with this personality know how to attract dozens of men.
Law 4: They accept loneliness
The women we have described also differ by a characteristic: are not afraid to be alone . This differentiates them from “normal girls”, who usually believe that they must be with a man to be happy. They, the bad girls, know that their life is more important and that their life should not be based on the company they have.
Law 5: They assert themselves
We men know that there are some “friends” who can be available for a long time to meet with us and satisfy our desires. There’s nothing wrong with that. But bad women never agree to that . If you don’t prioritize them, you have nothing to do. It is impossible for them to agree to see you if they notice you are using them.
Some conclusions about these women
There are several guides and books that talk about these girls. Each person is a world and bad girls are neither better nor worse, they are just different. They’re so different, they can make a lot of guys lose their minds over them.
Have you ever met a “bad girl” in your life? What was your experience like? You can tell us in the comments section or on our social networks.